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5 responses to “Speaking Truth”

  1. amandaw

    You suffer, you push through, you feel crushed, and yet you keep going. But you dare not complain because that’s just obsessing, unhealthy, possibly a sign of something worse.

    I still struggle against smiling and saying “I’m fine” every time someone asks me how I feel, even when I feel like shit. It’s a habit that’s hard to break. I keep a journal of what I go through because otherwise I lose touch with what I actually feel. I have to externalize it. And if it helps others understand on a deeper level what it’s really like to live with it — good. People need to understand.

    It’s cruel to scold someone for being honest about what they’re going through just because it makes you uncomfortable.

  2. amandaw

    And the constant barrage of “inspirational” messages are grating, too. It is a good thing to have hope. But to suppress all negative feelings because they don’t reconcile with the smile-happy-it’s-a-gift-to-be-alive storyline is unhealthy too.

  3. amandaw

    … not that I’m dealing with freakin’ cancer. But I can empathize on some things, definitely.

  4. annaham

    Massive, massive “word” to this post, as well as to Amandaw’s comments.

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