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10 responses to ““Seen And Heard”: Children in public spaces”

  1. Mary Tracy9

    “And above all, because learning that you are part of humanity is an essential precursor to social and political engagement.”

    Wonderful thought, wonderfully put. :D

  2. tigtog

    I certainly mourn the contrast between my childhood and that of my kids in many ways. I lived just down the street from a major park, and the local tribe of kids ranging from ages 4 to 14, roamed around it together, sometimes with local adults helping us construct forts and treehouses.

    This was largely possible because we came from single income families, back when a single income could support a family to a middle class standard. Our mums could watch us from the kitchen window, or at yell from the yards for us to come home, so we were all free to roam within broad boundaries (including regularly walking 2km to the beach as a group on weekends).

    This is not to say that a return to the gender roles of who stayed home at that time is the answer (as some traditionalists would have it), but it would be a great improvement in work/family balance if family life were structured to make it easier for parents to alternate after-school time with the offspring, and feeling confident in allowing them to run around with other kids from the neighborhood.

    The other issues are traffic density and the overhyping of stranger-danger, of course. All aspects of a society which has allowed itself to treat child-friendly spaces as a luxury rather than a necessity and a social benefit.

  3. tigtog

    Tangentially related, in that it discusses what we expect of and impose upon children in constraining ways: “He’s Such A Boy” at Feministe.

    Parents are trapped in a paradox of pressure. Schools expect kids to sit still and shut up because we need more rigorous academic training; there’s no money or time for recess or PE. Content is being shoved downward until preschoolers are doing what used to be first-grade work. Parents are signing those same preschoolers up for tutoring to give them an edge. And, simultaneously, there’s a lot of noise about how boys are at risk. Christina Hoff Summers and her cronies have created a cottage industry decrying the ways in which “misguided feminism” has harmed boys, because sterotypically feminine behavior is privileged in schools, where sitting down and shutting up is the goal. See the circle we have here?

    Edited to add: I find this related because the corporatised culture that we want our kids to succeed in wants people who sit down and shut up when presented with an authority figure, and the rewarding of stereotypically constrained feminine traits seems to match up with the idea that kids shouldn’t be seen or heard freely being kids in public spaces – it’s all about rewarding quiet compliance and pushing kids away from anything boisterous or rowdy.

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  5. tigtog

    It would seem more accurate to say not that boys are harmed by stereotypically feminine behaviour being rewarded, but that children exhibiting stereotypically masculine traits are harmed (no matter what their sex).

    That’s exactly what I meant to say, and how the discussion at Feministe went too.

  6. blue milk

    This is a great post, I can’t believe I’d missed it until now somehow.

  7. Mindy

    The school my eldest will attend next year has daily PE, and the uniform is polo shirts, shorts (and tracksuits for winter) and joggers so that kids can participate everyday. I just have to remind myself that this doesn’t let me off the hook for doing stuff with him after school.

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