My status as a staunch “Lefty” Tim Brunero fan has been moribund for most of this season, and it’s now officially dead.
On Big Brother Australia, Rory was in the shower as Terri was approaching. He masturbated till he was half erect, then called out for her to look – “Helicopter, Terri? Helicopter?” while he wiggled his hips around, stripper-style. He moved to make sure that Terri saw it. His harassment was clearly unwelcome, and Rory knew that. Terri said “That’s disgusting, Rory. Don’t do that.” It was obvious that it wasn’t the first time. He does it to offend and intimidate Terri, not to make her laugh.
There’s a little snippet here from 2:44 in this video if you want to get a brief look-in to what’s happening. Bear in mind that this is Big Mouth – they have a history of editing and interpreting selectively to downplay the bullying and harassment in the house. You’ll also see the BB producers’ response to it, which boils down to “Har har hasn’t he got a big dick? And Terri hates it! Har! Plus, wasn’t [co-harasser] Nobbi fabulous? Nobbi, we miss youuuu!”
Rory boasted about this to his muppet mob, making a point of telling them that when he’s in the shower and Terri is around, he always wanks to make sure she gets a good eyeful.
This boast came just after Nobbi exposed himself to Terri, then when she expressed her disgust, yelled at her “What’s the matter? Dontcha like Asian dicks?”
It’s obvious here that these men are repeatedly exposing themselves in a deliberate and hostile way, not playing mutually-fun games. They want to keep on reminding Terri that they have the Almighty Penises, and that they wield them as weapons to put her in her place.
This is not just a bit of silly horseplay. It’s a collaborative sexual harassment campaign, designed to intimidate. This stuff is not just fucked-up, it’s illegal.
Terri, I may not much like you either, but I’ll take your Hollaback anytime at Hollaback Australia. Rory and Nobbi wanking and brandishing penises at you is not cool.
And “Lefty” Tim’s response at Livenews? Wounded pouting about how the poor guy shouldn’t get booted just for having a shower, and about how boring it is in there so you have to make your own fun, and how at worst, it was “in bad taste”. It was a “foolish wiggle”. Boys will be boys. We, “as a society, are taking ourselves just a bit too seriously”.
Wall-to-wall dude cues.
Tim even labels a bookie “hysterical” for changing Rory’s odds in response to his harassment . Could his antifeminism be any more obvious? He hasn’t got the ignorance excuse – this is a guy with a university degree in anthropology and an interest in progressive politics. He knows exactly what “hysterical” means.
None of this should surprise anyone who’s familiar with blokes in the “progressive” movement. But like it or not, I’m disappointed every. single. time. Because I keep convincing myself that they really do want to be feminist allies. I keep trying to tell myself that they’re trying.
Tim, you can just fuck off. I don’t care if you’re belatedly claiming to give a small amount of ground on this – only after being slammed by your public. It is blatantly obvious to anyone who is not a misogynist little assberet that what Rory was doing was pre-meditated sexual harassment. You’re now a card-carrying rape culture apologist, Tim. Was it worth it, for what Ten pays?
I’ll leave you with these immortal words from Kate Harding. I’ve quoted them before, and I’ll quote them again:
Cause the thing is, you and the guys you hang out with may not really mean anything by it when you talk about crazy bitches and dumb sluts and heh-heh-I’d-hit-that and you just can’t reason with them and you can’t live with ‘em can’t shoot ‘em and she’s obviously only dressed like that because she wants to get laid and if they can’t stand the heat they should get out of the kitchen and if they can’t play by the rules they don’t belong here and if they can’t take a little teasing they should quit and heh heh they’re only good for fucking and cleaning and they’re not fit to be leaders and they’re too emotional to run a business and they just want to get their hands on our money and if they’d just stop overreacting and telling themselves they’re victims they’d realize they actually have all the power in this society and white men aren’t even allowed to do anything anymore and and and …
I get that you don’t really mean that shit. I get that you’re just talking out your ass.
But please listen, and please trust me on this one: you have probably, at some point in your life, engaged in that kind of talk with a man who really, truly hates women: to the extent of having beaten and/or raped at least one. And you probably didn’t know which one he was.
And that guy? Thought you were on his side.
Edited 2 July 08 1616 to add: More at Eye On Big Brother.