Comments on: “The Open-Source Boob Project”

By: Curi-oz

Curi-oz — Tue, 05 May 2009 15:55:37 +0000

Purrdence, I am suffering from a lack of appropriate wordage for the female equivalent of ‘balls’ (as in effrontery equating to ownership of testicles) .
On the other hand, I suppose if one has ‘kneed’ sufficient’ nuts’ then one would have the ‘balls’ in hand? *wry whimsy*

What gets me is that apparently people, male and female, that allow it to happen without voicing their discomfort or making the comment publicly that there is something ‘not quite right’ with this sort of intimidatory/predatory scheme.
And I’m just as guilty about not saying anything, to my own embarrassment…

By: Purrdence

Purrdence — Tue, 05 May 2009 08:16:08 +0000

Female what?

And when did they start growing testicles?

By: Curi-oz

Curi-oz — Tue, 05 May 2009 05:16:55 +0000

It confounds me that an older female at such a gathering (and there are usually some) don’t take the ‘green button’ (for arguments sake) and start playing the game in reverse …
“I’m wearing a green button so that means I can knee you in the nuts – if I ask ‘nicely’ like you did”?

But then I suppose that the weight of ’society’ would then be dropped on the offensive female who had sufficient balls to pull it off …

*sighs* There are days I look forward to a time when this crap doesn’t keep appearing … and then I realise that they are probably not going to be in my lifetime.

By: davka

davka — Fri, 16 May 2008 02:22:42 +0000

yeah, you’re right. sorry. but I did read the post.

By: Emily S

Emily S — Sun, 04 May 2008 15:47:28 +0000

Yuk… How incredibly moronic. The fact that this sort of insensitivity and misogyny exists amongst theoretically educated circles is even more disgusting.

By: L

Wed, 30 Apr 2008 03:10:57 +0000

Ugh, I hadn’t read the buttsecks post from theferrett, and I am absolutely disgusted (and also slightly triggered). Seriously, he just wrote about anally raping two women. In a jokey, light-hearted post. Not okay.

By: Lauredhel

Lauredhel — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 01:01:56 +0000

sajbrfem: exactly. He puts the onus entirely onto the people who have been frightened and degraded to just lighten up, already, cos that will fix everything. "Trust me, I'm a stranger who wants to feel your tits but not talk with you." Yeah, right. Lauredhels last blog post..New to the blogroll or other bits of the blog

By: sajbrfem

sajbrfem — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 23:34:23 +0000

I decided to craft my original response in crochet, but I keep finding more and more things offensive about the 'project'. The problems really begin right away in the opening paragraph (from the original post):

"This should be a better world," a friend of mine said. "A more honest one, where sex isn't shameful or degrading. I wish this was the kind of world where say, 'Wow, I'd like to touch your breasts,'

While I get big alarm bells from anything that relies on the word 'should' I do agree that it would be great if this was a better world. But it is astonishing that the solution to the problem 'this is a world where people feel shame and degradation with regards to sex' some how became 'if women would just let us (the good people, not those other perverts) touch their breasts openly everyone would feel wonderful and happy and validated' rather than (the more obvious to me)'hey, maybe if I developed and demonstrated respect for other people and their sexuality and encouraged, by example, others to do the same this would be a better world'. Annejumps I agree, the sycophants are way scary.

By: tigtog

tigtog — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 19:43:29 +0000

davka, both Lauredhel and I read your comment in moderation, discussed it, and felt that it was not asking nicely at all. You quite obviously relied on grepping the phrase on Google and then coming straight here to comment without any further reading.

To ask a blogger to “respectfully” do something for you when you have blatantly disrespected them by not reading their post is what’s pretty weak.

Edited to add: Addressing that blogger as “dear” in your response is also pretty weak.

Here’s a suggestion if you have been making the same remark at all the other blogs that Google tells you have used the phrase: a better approach from you would have been “Hey, it’s great to see so many people using the phrase “Cosmic Titty”, which I coined only a short time ago, in discussions of this. Please read my original post!” It’s still splogging, but at least it’s goodnatured and relevant splogging.

By: davka

davka — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 16:45:46 +0000

No, copyrighted an essay with the title consisting of that two-word phrase, dear. My essay is coming up a lot in this discussion of the OSBP and I didn't navigate my way safely through your mess of quotes, sorry. I made a mistake and asked you nicely about it. You only needed to inform me nicely, not rudely and sarcastically. Very weak of you. Peace.

davkas last blog post..comic relief