Comments on: Another sad story for the “It’s not sex, it’s rape.” file, by Guest Hoyden Slave2TehTink

By: Esme

Esme — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 02:28:15 +0000

It really saddens me that this judge thinks so little of this man, and men in general.

I have, many times in my life, had people younger than me show up at my house because they were abused, violated, afraid, or otherwise in need of help. And many more times I’ve gone and picked them up, or found someone who could. And never, in all those times, has it ever even occurred to me to give alcohol to them, or engage in sex acts with them. And because I am not a man, that’s understood to be the case.

What a dim view of men though, to think that they can’t help but see helpless people, people in need of a couch to surf, a hug or a held hand, or hair pulled back while they vomit, or a phone to call 911 on, as candidates for sexual partners.

By: Lauredhel

Lauredhel — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 11:55:27 +0000

So… are they using the “well she’s been raped continuously for four years anyway, what can once more hurt” angle?

I suspect a touch of that, and a lavish serving of “she was obviously a saucy little seductress, you can’t blame him!”

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links for 2009-03-08 « Shut Up, Sit Down — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 09:30:32 +0000

[...] Another sad story for the "It’s not sex, it’s rape." file by Guest Hoyden Slave2TehTin… "I am full of flail and hate. This is such a NO BRAINER maximum sentence. Damaged child half your age shows up at your house, the correct answer is “CALL THE POLICE” not “GIVE HER BOOZE AND DRUGS AND RAPE HER”. And then the paper reports him found guilty of “having sex with” her, right. Right." [...]

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Anger. So Much Anger. « HellOnHairyLegs — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 03:28:04 +0000

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By: Legal Eagle

Legal Eagle — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 00:25:14 +0000

Sheezus, that kind of case really makes me upset. :( Poor girl.

By: SunlessNick

SunlessNick — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 17:55:01 +0000

So… are they using the “well she’s been raped continuously for four years anyway, what can once more hurt” angle?

By: Angus Johnston

Angus Johnston — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 17:31:10 +0000

On the American cop show NYPD Blue, one of the senior detectives used the phrase “had sex on” to describe what people who sexually abuse children do, as in “Did you have sex on him?”

I always thought that was an incredibly apt and chilling phrase, and I think of it every time I read one of these posts.