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Lauredhel is an Australian woman and mother with a disability. She blogs about disability and accessibility, social and reproductive justice, gender, freedom from violence, the uses and misuses of language, medical science, otters, gardening, and cooking.

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  1. Cate
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    I spent a week in the Amazon jungle last May and came face-to-face with some otters as we were canoeing. It was freakin’ scary. They didn’t do much besides hiss at us and look very stern, but I would not want to be the sucker that messes with one of those. Very happy to be in the boat at that moment.

    And yes! I love/d Rikki Tikki Tavi!

  2. Renee
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    I still have not had the courage to blog about my chronic illness. This week the doc said I will never be the same. To make things first he went on and on about how much weight have gained because of course teh fat will kill ya don’t ya know. Being far is not the worse thing in the world to me right now. I’d like to be able to cook dinner for my family, or do the impormptu dance parties like we used to, ya know I don’t think the fat is what stopping this. it’s the fucking disease you dimwit. Then he had the nerve to tell me to exercise self control and try and be active. It was all I could do not to hit him with my cane. Yeah I so look forward to waking up everyday in body scorching pain and having a body covered in sweat from the simple act of doing a sink full of dishes or not being able to walk a few city block. Yeah this is the life I fucking dreamed of. What the fuck is wrong with the medical establishment and its obsession with fat. Jesus Christ. Sorry about the rant, I just don’t know where else to put it right now.

    Renee’s last blog post..I Repeat-Quit Using ‘Tranny” To Insult Cisgender Women

  3. tigtog
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    What the fuck is wrong with the medical establishment and its obsession with fat.

    It’s the easiest answer and patients already feel bad about it due to cultural disdain therefore they are less likely to argue with the doc.


  4. Mortisha
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    Heard an interesting interview with Professor of Criminology Phil Scraton on Radio National the other day -sounds like a passionate man trying to do good in the world – particularly inside the world of female incarceration. He said 3/4 of the women in Northern Ireland jails are there because they can’t pay fines – i.e they are poor.

    He thinks the figures are similiar in Australia. And nothing has changed through history – the jails are still heavily used as a good place to store mentally ill /hard to handle females rather ‘god forbid’ help them.

    Have a listen

  5. Mortisha
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    Renee -i’d be getting myself a new doctor -sounds like he doesn’t understand your condition! Is there a support group around that can help you? There are chronic pain specialists too

  6. Mortisha
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  7. Deborah
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    I love it when the otters have a little party on the edge of the water as the coyote heads off.

  8. fuckpoliteness
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    Renee, I meant to write to you last week. I’m really sorry to hear what’s happening for you and the sorts of changes you’re being required to adapt to. And I imagine that in the middle of *trying* to get your head anywhere near adapting to it that all the ways in which this world disrespects and makes life difficult for people with limited mobility or less than bouncy fighting fit and full of energy bodies must just be slapping you in the face. I wish there was something I could say to make it in some way easier/more bearable. I’m thinking of you.

  9. Jha
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    Renee – *hugs* Good luck.

  10. Jha
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    Apparently this month is Women’s History Month.

    While I’m in the wrong country, I am suddenly seized by the idea of ordering the full set of Marilyn French’s “From Eve to Dawn: A History of Women in the World” (four volumes) and holding a contest asking participants to write / blog about why women’s history is important, with the four volume set as the prize.

    Think this would fly?

  11. Anna
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    Well, I’d play that game, Jha, but I’m in Canada.

    Renee, if you can, get a new doctor. I know it’s really hard to find the time/energy to go through the whole thing, but having a doctor that treats you like that is bad. :( Do you have the time to call the nursing hotline in your city and get a list of new doctors taking patients?

    *hug* Good luck.

  12. Renee
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    Thanks everyone for the support. It is nice to know that there is a safe space where I can release some of my frustration. As far as a new doctor goes unfortunately because the condition I have is rare there aren’t many that treat it and the idiot I have is supposedly one of the best. Thankfully I don’t have to see him again and until June and that alone gives me a little more peace of mind.

  13. Anna
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    Oh Lauredhel, I think this sentence sums up everything about Privileged White Dude that I needed to know:

    “Because I am sure if I am slightly uncomfortable with something there is a much higher % of people in the room that are bugged by it.”

    Gosh, if I feel like X, EVERYONE MUST.

    Obviously, then, y’all really like honey on your ice cream. Because if I think something is awesome, there’s a much higher % of people in the room who do. And the internet is just one big room, right?

  14. TimT
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    Currently getting to the end of the near-perfect 1920s English country comedy, Cold Comfort Farm. Really enjoying it. I also received in the mail yesterday a copy of A E Van Vogt’s The Voyage of the Space Beagle, and that looks like it’s going to be great too – Golden Age science fiction from one of its earliest proponents.

  15. fuckpoliteness
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    Jha, there’s a lot I’d be willing to do to be in the running for that series. I’m looking at my lovely bookcase now and thinking that’s EXACTLY what’s missing!!

  16. Anna
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    You know, I’m all for being allowed to stay home when I’m getting my period, but I’m not sure what various employers would think.

    Although I feel so oppressed over there – there are all these Annas, and they aren’t me! I’ve gone almost 32 years of my life without even meeting another Anna, and now there are lots of them. I feel like I am no longer a unique and special snowflake. It should be like Immortals – there can be only one!

    … Okay, thesis is obviously eating my brain again. ‘Scuze me while I kiss this guy. <3

  17. fuckpoliteness
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    Haha…I wish that’s what Hendrix had been singing. And all the macho guitar boys had to sing along “Excuse meeeeeee while I KISS this GUY!” That would make me Pretty Darned Happy. :)

    fuckpoliteness’s last blog post..I really need sleep

  18. Mortisha
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    A young man is languishing in an Islamic prison right now, for a terrible crime.

    Sayed Pervez Kambaksh, the student journalist sentenced to death for blasphemy in Afghanistan, has been told he will spend the next 20 years in jail after the country’s highest court ruled against him – without even hearing his defence.

    It later emerged he was convicted by three mullahs, in secret, without access to a lawyer. The sentence was commuted to 20 years on appeal. At that appeal, in October, the key prosecution witness withdrew his testimony, claiming he had been forced to lie on pain of death. The prosecution then appealed to the Supreme Court to reinstate the death sentence. The defence appealed to quash his conviction altogether.

    Meanwhile, the student has been languishing in a Kabul jail, fearing for his life. Islamic fundamentalists have been baying for his blood while moderate groups have led marches countrywide demanding his release.

    What was his crime? That is as bad as the criminality of the kangaroo court that convicted him.

    Mr Kambaksh was found guilty of blasphemy and sentenced to death last year for circulating an essay on women’s rights which questioned verses in the Koran.

    Don’t question. Don’t support women. We’ll kill you if you do either. Is that the message?

  19. Renee
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    @Lauredhel Thanks so much, I really appreciate the support. I am trying to make the leap in my mind from being able bodied to differently abled. I guess I am looking for resources to understand how people adjust to that change. I have been able bodied all of my life until now and I don’t know how to process the change.

  20. hexy
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    I’m beginning to think I want a posse of guard-otters. Those dudes are awesome!

    Renee: So sorry to hear how hard this is, and that your doctor is being less than helpful. Dealing with my own medical shite at the moment has me again thankful for the support of the great mental health team I have. Going through such things without decent medical support is so difficult. You’re in my thoughts.

    hexy’s last blog post..Trainwrecks, CATW, and actually opposing anti-woman laws and action

  21. Jha
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    Anna: I’m in Canada too. But I’d be willing to ship anywhere in the world if it means being able to compile a lot of voices speaking out about the importance of women’s history! The only problem would be to decide how to make the final call.

    fuckpoliteness: It’s definitely one of those must-have [set of] books! There’s so much to take in, much like Marilyn French’s other epic book, Beyond Power.

  22. tigtog
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    @ TimT:

    I adore Cold Comfort Farm. There’s a 1995 TV adaptation that has some very nice performances. Rufus Sewell as Seth is tasty, and Kate Beckinsale makes a delightfully composed Flora Poste. Eileen Atkins, Ian McKellan and Miriam Margolyes all have a great time chewing the furniture as well.

  23. su
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    I am fast in the grip of a new musical obsession. A couple of their tracks have featured on Skins, which I love, including this.

    Obsessed person is obsessive :-/

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