Items of interest found recently in my RSS feed. Please share what you've been reading (and writing!) in the comments.
- girlie jones – Open Letter to the SF Community re: Ellison/Bradford Incident
- What's so funny about rape?
- Sports culture, rape, and why it’s not about being hard up
- I Refuse to Don Your Genderless Spandex Unitard
- The Great Murkan Marriage!!!!
- Keep your poverty out of my face
- Linkfest! Now New and Improved, with Captions!
- There’s something about monotheism
- The second class baby
- Work-life balance; we’re doing it wrong
– Harlan Ellison – crotchety uncle or provocative jerk?
– “how anyone could possibly think that joking about rape is being edgy or somehow fighting against the mainstream – which seems to be what the comics in this Guardian article are arguing. They say they’re taking taboos head-on. But the thing is, rape jokes and mocking violence against women are mainstream. They’re not a taboo at all – they’re the norm, sadly.”
– “It’s ugly enough in these cases, but when it comes to rape, it’s particularly weird. Do people really think that rapists rape because they’re hard up? I don’t believe that for a second. Feminists are often, and for good reason in many cases, criticizing the gratuitous use of rape scenes, and other scenes of violence against women, in movies and TV, but I will say this: even the most obviously unnecessary versions I’ve seen of this phenomenon at least portray violence against women as something men perpetuate because they get a sadistic pleasure in it. So it’s not like the reality of what motivates rapists is all that hidden in our culture. Rapists rape because they like raping. Forcing someone to submit to you sexually is thrilling for some people, for the same reasons that other displays of dominance and control are thrilling.”
– ” “Equal” doesn’t mean “same.” This is not a difficult concept. “
– “I hate badly framed debates. I also hate the kind of setup where neither of the so-called experts actually appears to know much about the history of marriage in general or how long the average marriage used to last (hint: not that long in many cases as mortality rates were rather different).”
– “How dare you show up how much our society has failed you?”
– from Tracey at Unapologetically Female
– a fascinating meander through intolerance, polemic and charity in the big pagan-Christian conflict in 391BCE and how it corresponds to divisions now
– cognitive dissonance and double standards at play
– “we shouldn’t be talking about work-life balance at all. We should call it work-life interference, and try to measure how much work interferes with our life.”