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16 responses to “Assault and battery on the Amazing Race”

  1. Mindy

    I don’t watch this anymore, it bugs the hell out of me. I’m not surprised they seem to revel in bringing out the worst in people.

  2. Pharaohkatt

    This reminds me of some recent episodes of The Guild
    Spoiler for 3×4, 3×5, 3×6
    one of the characters, Zaboo, is in his first real relationship, with a gamer woman whose name I can’t remember. The episodes show clear sexual assault and DV, her being the attacker and him the victim.
    ~end spoiler~

    it’s disturbing the ease at which producers show this stuff, without any warning or information. Even worse is when it is played for laughs, as in the situation above :(

  3. Cath the Canberra Cook

    Fiction.

  4. Pharaohkatt

    Yeah, what Cath said.

    I think the fact that no one stepped in on Amazing Race is further proof of rape culture – it’s seen as perfectly acceptable to manhandle your partner if she gets “hysterical”. When it’s accepted to have so little respect for someone’s boundaries… It terrifies me what else he might be able to get away with.

  5. Renee

    This is the first season that I have skipped. I have found that each season there is always a couple in which one member is extremely verbally abusive and even threatens physical violence. Nothing is ever said which of course normalizes this behavior. It seems acceptable to yell and get in someone’s face because a million dollars is at stake. There always seems to be a way to justify abuse.

  6. Tera

    What gets me is he keeps saying: “I’m not gonna force you.” When he totally *just tried to.* And *continues* to try to force her afterwards.

    Bah. Thank goodness I don’t watch The Amazing Race.
    .-= Tera´s last blog ..*Squeak!* It’s open thread time! =-.

  7. Shelby

    That poor girl. What bugs me about this show, and I admit I don’t watch it alot, is that the challenges are mostly strength or speed based and skewed toward the men being more able to complete them in a faster time than the women.

  8. Nacey

    I think it’s a testament to her fear when A MILLION DOLLARS won’t even make her go down the damned slide. As someone who’s intensely scared of heights, and I mean standing on a chair freaks me out, I know how she feels.

    She should dump his ass. Poor sweetie.

  9. orlando

    I bet she doesn’t even blame him for his behaviour. With everyone around her normalising it, how could she have the chance to get the perspective?

  10. NoLongerSilent

    Incredibly disrespectful and abusive. I am constantly amazed at how people think that they get to decide for someone else what qualifies as scary, offensive, etc….

    I think it’s a testament to her fear when A MILLION DOLLARS won’t even make her go down the damned slide.

    Nacey, I completely agree.

  11. cesy.dreamwidth.org/

    That’s horrible.

  12. becsh

    What made me even more sad was their reactions in the post-elimination interview. In this the two of them are sitting together as if nothing has happened while the guy, Canaan, is talking about forgiveness. Not Mika forgiving him for his appalling (and criminal) behaviour, but him forgiving her! He bignotes himself about how he doesn’t hold it against her and it could have been him freaking out at the top of the slide, and he understands that nobodies perfect blah blah blah while Mika sits contrite and silent at his side.

  13. becsh

    @lauredhel “In the “Previously On” section of today’s episode – all the voiceover says is that Mika was “crippled by her fear”.”

    Well, “Mika was crippled by her overbearing and obnoxious boyfriend’s violent attempts to forcefully supplant his will for her own” was a bit too long for the soundbite.

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