Read-ems: Fat Acceptance, Health, Social Inclusion and Self Acceptance

First readSpilt Milk: Talking about diet talk

I don’t want to know about your diet. I don’t want to know how many calories you’ve eaten today, or plan to eat tomorrow. I don’t want to know if you lost 500g last week, or put on 3 kg over the holidays. I don’t want to know if Zumba classes have helped you ‘drop two kilos in a week’.

Basically, I don’t give a shit.

This does not mean that I don’t care about you — if you’re my friend, I most certainly do care about you. If you’re a decent human being reading this blog, I care about you too. And if health is a concern to you, I care about that: I care about how you feel about your health, and your body.

The best thing in Spilt’s post? Calling out the self-shit-talking about the horrible flaws in one’s own mildly flabby body in the presence of a much fatter person for what it is – passive-agressive fat-shaming insults that are not just downright rude but which are also alienating because the subtext is that the fatter person must be even more horrible and unwanted by all ‘right-thinking’ people.

Then top it off with Ariane’s thoughts on Fat and Health in response (in part) to Spilt Milk’s post.

I’m still thinking about fat. The intense responses to the idea of fat acceptance are often justified in terms of health. The more I think about this, the more, intertwined reasons there are for calling bullshit on it.

This seems like a handy time to reproduce the handy diagram from Fatadelic on intersections and differences between various types of Body Attitudes:

Interesecting circles - showing Dieting, Size Acceptance, Fat Acceptance, Body Acceptance and Self Acceptance - the post on Fatadelic has more information on how these vary

Body Attitudes and Self Acceptance



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2 replies

  1. I don’t love my body because it keeps playing up (more when I am not exercising enough than when I am, but exercising enough doesn’t stop all the problems). Presenting Loving Your Body As It Is ™ as the goal which everyone should aspire to is not helpful. Why should I love my body when it betrays me at every turn? I do not love my body when it is in pain. I do not love my body when it is constantly itchy. I do not love my body when it feels ill. Should I love my body for giving me clear signs that something is wrong, even when I cannot fix it quickly enough to remove the symptoms in a timely manner?
    All the other points in the posts you linked to are good; I’m working on focusing my attention on the exercise I need, rather than the size I am. It’s hard though.

  2. “I do not love my body when it is constantly itchy.”
    I hear you on that! I’m deeply ambivalent, not about FA per se, but about the “intuitive eating” concept that often comes as part of the FA package, because if I don’t *strictly* control what I eat, I am a mess of constant itching, and my joints ache. And when you add sensory issues to that mix, it’s really difficult to deal with.
    I try not to beat myself up mentally if I slip up, but my body pretty much does it for me, and I do NOT love my body at all when I’m itching all over, or when my fingers and toes hurt.

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