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Lauredhel is an Australian woman and mother with a disability. She blogs about disability and accessibility, social and reproductive justice, gender, freedom from violence, the uses and misuses of language, medical science, otters, gardening, and cooking.

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17 responses to ““Honey, Don’t Bother Daddy. I’m Too Busy Building My Brand.””

  1. Helen

    Ace culture jam, Lauredhel.

  2. softestbullet

    Trying to imagine a world in which an article like this would actually be written…

    …Failing.

  3. G

    In general, it does. It shows some of the really patronizing/sexist bits into highlight (splayed laptops, pecking, boys) but otherwise I see it. I see those bits all the time (because I am a thin hided oversensitive over reactor, as someone told me last week) but generally I have seen this patronizing tone towards all bloggers, not just women ones.
    .-= G´s last blog ..Back in Black =-.

  4. skepticlawyer

    I have no trouble imagining this, because it’s how the MSM (I hate that acronym, but it’s convenient) writes up bloggers… all the time. Even when the journo in question is supposed to be a blogger.

    Gah.
    .-= skepticlawyer´s last blog ..Books with ideas =-.

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  6. blue milk

    Astute observation, lauredhel!

  7. Donna

    Oh, this regendering is full of WIN. It highlights so many smaller things I would have missed, such as the word “pecking” . lol omg wimminz who desire a life not limited to bebbehmaking are lyke selfish twits lol!

  8. Mindy

    I have to admit to a reading fail the first time I read this post. I didn’t read the link first and thought cool dads are doing this too! Then I read the comments and went oh…

    Which is to say that the re-gendering was very well done. I thought that someone had finally seen the value of blogging.

  9. attack_laurel

    Yes. Well spotted and reworked!

    I especially like the switching of “you guys” and “girls” to “you ladies” and “boys” – it shows up so well how gendered speech works. The general infantilizing tone of the article, the smack of mockery behind the words, and the continual use of belittling words is so telling when switched. *applause*

  10. lauredhel

    attack_laurel: That sort of thing is the tricky thing about genderflip. Would “gals” be a closer analogue to “guys”? Possibly, possibly – but for me it didn’t quite work in the context. There are lots of ways one can construct a genderflip, none particularly more valid than the next.

    I might do a few more of these to explore that.

  11. Jack

    Fathers have been blogging for years- there is a daddy blogger community. That aside I think that people are over reacting to that article. I just don’t see how it hurts women.

    You can blame that upon my gender if you wish, but what difference does it make. It is not going to going to make your blog more or less successful. It is not going to convince brands to work with or without you.

    But it is good for linkbait.
    .-= Jack´s last blog ..The Daddy Blogger Community =-.

  12. lauredhel

    Hi, Jack. You seem real defensive about something in my post, but I’m not sure what. I’m fairly sure that you’re making all sorts of assumptions about me that are not based in reality. Care to elaborate?

  13. TheDeviantE

    You know what really stood out about in this rendition of the article to me? “Daddy.” We see “mommy” used to just about describe anything that adult women do (whether they are mothers or not!, or whether what they are actually doing has anything to do with parenting). The only time that I see/read “Daddy” used to talk about adult men (when not talking with the small child of said man) is in a BDSM context.

    Maybe I’m overstating it a little, but I was *seriously* struck by the fact that that word is very sexualized (to me) because of the fact that it is so rarely used colloquially in the same way that “Mommy” is.

    Which was a little…. out of place in an article like that.

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  16. Candace

    This is great–although you know some guy is going to go out and register all those masculinized domain names now ;)

    Very good point you made with your re-write!

  17. Mindy

    Love it. My feminine scholar mother is still seething.

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