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6 responses to “Dear Internets: How to make Rape Jokes that won’t make Women hate You”

  1. QoT

    Butbutbut … doesn’t that mean empathizing with rape victims instead of getting one’s jollies by being shocking and edgy? That doesn’t sound cool. *headdesk*

  2. tigtog

    Got it in one, QoT.

    It’s amazing how many shocking and edgy jokes just reinforce bigotry and prejudice rather than challenging it. Subverting the status quo: UR DOIN IT RONG.

  3. tigtog

    Someone offered a similar example on Feministe regarding jokes about race: if the next line after your punchline could logically be “Bigots, help me out here!”, then the joke is pretty damned racist.

  4. Perla

    I once entered into an online discussion with an anti-feminist who reckoned that finding rape jokes hilarious was a political view, and that by asking people to avoid making rape jokes in my presence if possible* I was supressing their political views/expression.

    * Just me being a pain in the arse about my pesky personal comfort and feelings of safety and what not.

  5. Helen

    It is a political view, Perla. It’s how half the population helps to maintain power over the personal movement and social functioning of the other. But you are under no obligation to let those views go unchecked, just as you’d be under no obligation not to slap down someone off on a neon*zi rant.

  6. tigtog

    BTW, when I wrote this post I hadn’t yet caught up with the latest Penny Arcade shitstorm.

    I’m divided on the joke on the original strip – I don’t think it comes down on the side of rapists, and I get where it fits in the context of weird gaming scenarios that mean you have to leave slaves behind in the middle of a quest because other people need to be able to come and rescue slaves from that level as well – I can also see why some/many rape survivors would find it triggering.

    But Liss has it dead right when she lays out just how woefully bad their response to the original complaints was.

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