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8 responses to “Femmostroppo Reader July 3, 2011”

  1. Mindy

    Andrea who wrote the “What it’s like …” article sure has one good troll there to do some mansplainin’.

    joereform

    Yes, you are indeed fortunate that I pop in from time to time to put some perspective on the fantasy world of the fem-o-sphere. Makes it more of a discussion and less of a cheerleading section for bad thinking.

    Yup, he’s a keeper all right.

  2. Pirra

    Thank you for the link on Autism and Empathy.

    I am often astounded that people lump all people on the spectrum as having identical issues with empathy, it defies logic really. I know some do have an inability to empathise (as expressed by themselves, not the ‘experts’) but I also know many who do have enormous empathy AND compassion. I wonder if, in some cases, it’s not a lack of empathy but the inability to express it in ways that are recognisable to people not on the spectrum? In any case, when it comes to empathy, compassion and the expression of these things, I will take a first hand account of the person on the spectrum over a so called expert dictating what other people can and cannot feel.

  3. Mindy
  4. Pirra

    Wow Mindy, thanks for that link. I have tears.

  5. fuckpoliteness

    Oh dear. The empathy one has been rolling around in my head the last few days. My son has Asperger’s syndrome and I’ve heard every generalisation under the sun. I get so frustrated at how little room it leaves for the complexities and individualities of each person’s experience of the spectrum of thought patterns and behaviours that make up ASD. My son does have some difficulties in manifesting the socially prescribed ‘correct’ reaction to emotions. When he was younger he’d laugh when upset or uncomfortable. He also finds it hard to cry about emotionally charged things, but cries with frustration at times. But he’s also the child who burst into tears when it was suggested he might want to travel without me one day, who cried when he thought he’d hurt my feelings with something he said when I was just surprised, who, on being told that some kids didn’t have any or many toys he packed ALL his toys including his newest and favourites to be given away, and the other day packing for our move I found a letter from when he was six to his father (in Germany) that said ‘Dear Dad. I really miss you. Here is some money for a snack’ with $1.50 taped to the paper in coins. He constantly becomes outraged at political injustice and thinks of ways to resolve it, and he’s the first to offer to buy things for people.

    Then I read the second link and was struggling not to sob in the office.

  6. Alien Tea
  7. tigtog

    @Alien Tea, thanks for that link. I’ve been super busy lately and haven’t been doing as much reading as usual, or I would have caught up with that story.

    Privilege: the capacity to be safely clueless regarding constant threats that others are justifiably vigilant about.

  8. orlando

    I just stumbled across that one last night, and got very upset indeed, though my Nigel turned out to be quite proud of his ability to multitask by responding constructively to a feminist rant while watching the State of Origin.

    Rebecca Watson’s response is very worth reading. Possibly the most revolting thing was in Dawkins’ third post, when he claimed that all he would need to change his mind is for someone to give him a rational explanation for the women’s point of view.

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