If you are on Twitter you probably heard about the tweet by @kayserlingere that caused a Twitter storm. If you aren’t, or if you missed it here it is:
#Kaysermaleinsider If a guy invites you over to watch a movie, you should know what they’re expecting
I kid you not someone actually tweeted that, then deleted the tweet when the feminist twittersphere got a little heated about it. I don’t know the full story but apparently they have apologised and made a donation to the White Ribbon foundation.
A few things occurred to me about this, firstly in my day a bloke had to buy you dinner first not just rent a weekly DVD from Video Ezy or order up something from NetFlix (and yes we had DVDs but video was still the norm and Netflix was someway in the future). But seriously, it would seem that the old ‘expectation of sex for something entirely unremarkable’ has not yet died a long overdue death. I don’t have any problem with two people meeting to watch a movie and ending up doing the rumpy pumpy. More luck to them. If you are worked up into an excited lather by some foxy bloke asking you over to watch a movie then good for you, or maybe ‘come over and watch a movie’ is code for ‘lets have lots of sex then veg out in front of the TV with a pizza’ then that is great too. The problem is when only one of you is thinking that.
So, if we agree that expecting someone to sleep with you because you picked up a DVD is going a bit far in the expectation stakes, what then is a reasonable expectation if you have invited someone over to watch a movie?
I have a couple of suggestions:
1. I don’t think it is unreasonable that he expects you to turn up. If you have accepted the invitation then it is only good manners to go, or if your creep meter is going off to find some way of letting him know something has come up. Unless you have discovered he is really creepy and have run like hell.
2. I think it is reasonable to expect that you will make an effort to watch the movie and not spend the entire time texting or fiddling with your iPad.
3. @jeremysear on Twitter said it would be reasonable to expect that you have eyeballs with which to watch the movie.
What do you think is a reasonable expectation from someone who has invited you over for a movie?