Article written by Lauredhel

Lauredhel is an Australian woman and mother with a disability. She blogs about social justice, reproductive justice, freedom from violence, the use and misuse of language, medical science, being disabled, her garden, and whatever else pops into her head.

Lauredhel also blogs at FWD/Forward (feminists with disabilities), scribbles at her personal dreamwidth journal Selective and Arbitrary, and co-moderates Hollaback Australia. She joined Hoyden About Town in 2007.

12 responses to “Motherless birthing, and the one-way street of obstetric “choice””

  1. kate

    Because we wont see it anywhere else… Congratulations to the woman who gave birth in such difficult circumstances, without an attendant who speaks her native language.

  2. tigtog

    Yes congratulations to Aline and her daughter Barbara. How frightening to discover you were going to give birth in mid-air when you didn’t even know you were pregnant. (I find it interesting how most reports make sure we know that Aline is blonde even if there’s no picture, is that just so we stupid readers don’t think she’s got the special non-white stupid about not knowing she was pregnant, so that we know how to properly calibrate our disdain? Yeesh.)

    The information about the increased and increasing medicalisation of labour against all evidence of actual benefit is scary. Makes me wonder just how much I needed that vacuum extraction and episiotomy for my first birthing (I know I definitely needed the caesarean for the second).

  3. Jo Tamar

    Thanks Lauredhel, fantastic post. I’ve just got on a bit of a blogging kick, having just moved somewhere where I have broadband again (yay!), and I’d decided to read this blog regularly already – this post just confirms that resolution :)

    I’m steaming about the pushing-the-caesarian issue and I don’t even *want* kids! Seems to me it’s part of the general acceptance of “if it’s medicated, it’s good” that we seem to be moving towards. Not that I’m saying medicine or medical intervention is BAD, far from it, I’m just deeply mistrustful when someone starts spouting off “everyone should do/take X or Y”, because one-size-fits-all approaches don’t work for everyone. Especially not when you’re talking about something as complex as pregnancy and birth…

    I also second the congrats to the mother, Aline. It must have been incredibly scary to find out she was pregnant as she was giving birth. A friend of mine found out she was pregnant at 7 months and that was scary enough!

  4. Janet Fraser

    Hooray!! A beautifully written, thoughtful piece on so many things that are so very wrong in our society’s picture of birthing. It gives me hope to see that there is one more of us who thinks this way! Thanks!!
    National Convenor
    Joyous Birth – Australian homebirth network.

  5. Mindy

    I don’t think my midwife has ever forgiven me for choosing a caesar for my second baby, after the Obs went through the whole dead baby thing several times. I was 37 weeks before I gave in (and terrified of losing my baby, who wouldn’t be?). She wanted me to change hospitals and take pot luck with whatever doctor turned up, which I wasn’t impressed about because having already had one caesar and had scar tissue removed subsequently I knew what could happen, and my obs this time was a surgeon as well.

    That said, I think if you want a natural birth you are better off taking your chances in a public hospital because they are more likely to leave you alone long enough to establish labour.

  6. Rachael

    Despite the vast misunderstandings amongst the community about what constitutes a ‘safe’ birthing environment, I really feel the tide is turning.

    I have long lamented that we currently don’t have any *real* choice, and I resent the fact that I had to pay for my homebirth (when a public hospital birth would have been free), whilst feeling tremendously grateful that I could actually afford to do so.

    This is a wonderful article, and let us all continue to advocate for real choices in childbirth.

  7. Jodi

    It is interesting to note the media’s current love affair with birthing issues when a few months ago you could not get a maternity issue into print (see the actual date of the Aline’s birth story?)

    Like the disappearing Aline, a recent story in the Courier Mail reporting on the midwifery group practice running at Brisbane’s Mater hospital – only midwives and babies were photographed. I was overhead to (rather loudly protest as the photos were being taken) ‘Where are the mothers’. ‘Yes its not right’ another woman agreed with me – turns out she is the midwife assigned to my gorgeous VBAC friend – so we’ll be seeing more of each other as I support my friend as her doula!

    It appears to me when mothers attempt to reinsert themselves into the equation – they we are told that we are ‘selfish’ and putting our needs/experience before the ‘safety’ of our babies! How rude of us, when we are the ones left literally ‘holding the baby’ when things go pear shaped from wrongful medical intervention. Like you say – women are meant to be thankful for having a live baby at the end of it. As my incredibly wise acupuncturist Heather Bruce ( http://www.easybabies.com.au ) proclaims – all family members need to be ‘on board’ after birth – Mum, Baby and Dad all intact – physically, emotionally, psychologically and spiritually. Being ‘alive’ isn’t enough! This was not how we evolved to birth and be birthed.

    I remember reading while pregnant that prior to the turn of the 20th century, when a baby was born the first question asked was, ‘How is the mother?’ but over time there has been a motherlode of a shift. Now we ask ‘How is the baby?’ As women we have some how become expendable in the process of birthing, yet we’re the first to be blamed when we dont have a ‘perfect baby’ or society starts to wig out as a collective unit. If we have had so much ‘progress’ – you would think that we would have moved on from Freudian mother bashing?

    When we speak about choices – we really need to speak about options – as pointed out in a recent correspondence by Home Midwifery Association (Qld) founder Kerry McGovern. She states ‘The concept is that it is possible to have lots of choices and no options. Perhaps we need to talk about options for mothers, rather than “choices” within a monocultural option.’ We have lots of choices as to how we want to birth, but unless you have the money, and are able to find a midwife, you dont have the option to birth at home with a midwife. You have the ‘option’ to free birth or take your chances in a hospital – but that’s not really an option is it, if you are forced to have to do one or the other?

    I would like to see the uproar created if we simply shut down maternity serices in hospitals and forced everyone to birth at home – because ‘that’s the safe option’. That would be deemed competely unethical and irresponsible – however its OK to leave midwives without PI insurance, out on a limb in terms of being easy targets for registering bodies (such as the Queensland Nursing Council), in such small numbers that there are no longer enough midwives to provide back up and down time for each other, creating circumstance that so drastically reduce the privately practising midwifery workforce that basically there is no option to homebirth in Queensland and women are forced to birth in hospital or alone. Double standards at its very worst I fear.

    How very dare you (in the words of the Catherine Tate Show!) as mothers demand something better … to put ourselves back into the picture and remind all that birthing is not a motherless event – it is the mother of all events. When we mess with the beginning of life, we irreversibly change the future and I know this time, it is not for the better.

  8. Joanne Smethurst

    Dear all

    What a great post! I loved it. Can I suggest that you all join Maternity Coalition (if you haven’t already) as we are working very hard – and have done for years – to make women and their babies more visible and to have a voice when it comes to our childbearing choices.

    As you point out, many women are kept uninformed (and dangerously, too many are misinformed), afraid, anxious and needlessly harangued for their need to be listened to/respected at what can be a very vulnerable time.

    Maternity Coalition (www.maternitycoalition.org.au) is a group of passionate mums, dads, midwives, doctors, grandmothers, and just plain everyday people. We don’t tell women how to birth, but instead, are working at increasing the REAL choices available to women so hopefully, there is a choice that feels right, feels safe and is economically viable for them.

    MC is here specifically for systems reform and influencing that by working directly with politicians, bureaucrats and other groups.

    I do this, and I’m sure others do too, so that mothers can once more feel empowered by birth, and able to move into motherhood confident that their own, and their baby’s bodies, are working well.

    I’ve had two amazing birth experiences and feel so sad for women who don’t know that birth can be uplifting, joyful, peaceful, and triumphant. It’s also bloody hard work and probably the biggest physical and mental challenge I will ever be faced with. For me, realising I could do this, under my own steam, supported by my loving husband, is the GREATEST triumph and achievement of my life. I just really hope my daughter feels like that if ever she births a child.

    Thanks again for such a great expose on birth in Australia at the moment.

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