Again and again she [Elizabeth Cady Stanton] tried to make it clear that it should not be important to women to be acceptable to men and that if all women became 'unacceptable' and defined their own terms of their own existence, much of the battle would be won, because men would have no alternative but to 'accept' unacceptable women- or go without! She deplored the strategy of being 'feminine' to achieve women's rights, because she thought that it was ultimately self-defeating.