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By tigtog on May 29, 2014
[Content Note for linked material: Isla Vista mass murders, misogyny, gun culture]
What I think would be helpful for a lot of men to understand (women too probably) is that sex and love aren’t earned. Can’t be earned. They are a matter of grace from the other person. And, because they can’t be earned, whether you are getting sex or love is not a reliable signifier of your value as a human being and aren’t a metric by which one person should be compared to another.
By tigtog on January 8, 2013
A few weeks ago a controversial tumblr was started which highlighted the OK Cupid dating profiles of certain men who claimed to be Nice/Decent Guys, but whose answers on optional stock questions set by OK Cupid revealed various degrees of Not-Nice/Not-Decent attitudes. Clementine lays out the back-story, analyses some of the criticisms, and comes to some conclusions.
By tigtog on September 4, 2011
[TW for violently abusive language towards a woman] For those who haven’t come across this story, it starts when a man and a woman in New York came across each other on the OKCupid dating website and went out twice, were each less than enthralled with the other, and moved on. So far, so ordinary.