relationships

All our relationships, not just partnerings

Tis the season of food guilt

By hatbluemilk on 2011-11-23 • ( 4 )

You don’t need to feel guilty for what you choose to eat, and you have nothing to make up for, and no reason to apologize. You don’t need to titter and say “Well, maybe just a little bit more” when… Read More ›

Ingroups bullying Outgroups: changing targets, consumerism and personal boundaries

By tigtog on 2011-11-19 • ( 2 )

In an age in which the traditional forms of ingroup hatred of outgroups (based on tribalism, race, nationality, religion, and so on) are no longer socially acceptable on a wide scale, are people seeking new outlets (albeit on a lower level) for the same old hatreds?

Before we call a truce on The Chore War

By hatbluemilk on 2011-11-05 • ( 8 )

Here is an article telling us that the housework war should be over already because a) men are doing just as much work as women now, b) so, women need to quit complaining and get over it, and c) men… Read More ›

Friday Hoyden: Emilia

By Guest Poster on 2011-09-30 • ( 6 )

In Othello, it is Emilia, unfortunate wife of the villainous Iago, who delivers the woman’s equivalent of Shylock’s more famous “Has not a Jew eyes?” speech.

Such is the focus on the central couple that it is easy to forget that two husbands kill their wives in this play.

Some of this bloke’s friends will be defending him right now

By tigtog on 2011-09-28 • ( 13 )

Man admits to elaborate online stalking campaign against girlfriend: will be sentenced next month after pleading guilty at Southampton magistrates’ court on Monday to a charge of causing harassment, alarm or distress.

BFTP: Hyphenating – who goes first?

By tigtog on 2011-09-20 • ( 26 )

…what is seen as usual – the woman’s name first, the man’s name last. This has become so customary that when my husband and I chose to hyphenate our surnames for the kids with his name first and my name last it was considered odd.

Repost: Nice Guys (TM) redux and what makes an ideal husband and father

By tigtog on 2011-09-19 • ( 31 )

Colour us as unreasonably demanding, but women do tend to want a little bit more than a guy who simply refrains from being nasty like it’s some great sacrifice (which implies that he might just stop refraining from being nasty if he doesn’t feel appreciated enough, so watch it).

A coffee cup, almost empty, sits on a saucer with a spoon. It's resting on the slats of a wooden table. Image by doug88888 on flickr; used with a Creative Commons license.

Building community

By Chally on 2011-09-16 • ( 18 )

Hello, gentle readers! I’m Chally, and I’m the newest blogger around these parts. I’m a university student and freelance writer based in Sydney who is very fond of Doctor Who (well, of course), theatre, baking, literature, guinea pigs, and all… Read More ›

On A Woman Choosing Not To Date A Geek

By tigtog on 2011-09-04 • ( 28 )

[TW for violently abusive language towards a woman] For those who haven’t come across this story, it starts when a man and a woman in New York came across each other on the OKCupid dating website and went out twice, were each less than enthralled with the other, and moved on. So far, so ordinary.