[Content Note for linked material: Isla Vista mass murders, misogyny, gun culture]
What I think would be helpful for a lot of men to understand (women too probably) is that sex and love aren’t earned. Can’t be earned. They are a matter of grace from the other person. And, because they can’t be earned, whether you are getting sex or love is not a reliable signifier of your value as a human being and aren’t a metric by which one person should be compared to another.
Regrets and enthusiastic consent, can they exist together?
Tara Murtha at Philadelphia Weekly brings us Watch Your Language: Pedophilia, gang rape and erroneous Fox29 reporting, which has an opinion from a forensic semanticist about calling rape “having sex” or “a sexual relationship” in court: But after a recent… Read More ›
The Sydney Morning Herald reports that the New South Wales Registry of Births, Deaths and Marriages has withdrawn the birth certificate they had granted to Norrie May-Welby, stating “Sex Not Specified”. It says it cancelled Norrie’s “recognised details certificate” after… Read More ›
In today’s “It’s Not Sex, It’s Rape” files I present Melanie Christiansen’s article in the Courier Mail, “Unwanted teen sex tied to binge drinking“. AN explosion in binge drinking among high school girls is driving an increase in unwanted teen… Read More ›
The news is all over new “research” purporting to show that women lurrrrve to fuck drunk. Well, no, not quite. The research puports to show that women get drunk before sex because they “lack confidence in their bodies”: Almost half… Read More ›
Kyle Sandilands, you’re not just a prat, you’re an abusive douchebag. I have a feeling Kyle Sandilands and Jackie O are going to be getting accolades on the “sensitive” way in which they handled this segment. Kyle and Jackie run… Read More ›
Kenyan man James Kimondo is suing G10 women’s rights activists who urged women to engage in a week-long sex strike as a political protest, the BBC reports. And the illustration on the Beeb’s article has to be seen to be… Read More ›
Reading this review of “Getting Off” by Jamye Waxman at Menstrual Poetry, I started to wonder: who’s assessing sex toys from an accessibility point of view? Where are the easy-grip variety-of-angles assistive devices for women with a range of different… Read More ›
What would you call it when a step-father repeatedly rapes a girl, starting when she’s 13, and this goes on for three years before he’s caught? Rape? Sexual assault? Molestation? Pedophilia? Sexual abuse? Child abuse? Not according to Andrew Korner… Read More ›
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