Femmostroppo Reader – October 19, 2009

Items of interest found recently in my RSS feed. What did I miss? Please share what you've been reading (and writing!) in the comments.

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  1. Schrodinger’s Rapist: it’s just a tower of awesome!

    If you speak, and she responds in a monosyllabic way without looking at you, she’s saying, “I don’t want to be rude, but please leave me alone.” You don’t know why. It could be “Please leave me alone because I am trying to memorize Beowulf.” It could be “Please leave me alone because you are a scary, scary man with breath like a water buffalo.” It could be “Please leave me alone because I am planning my assassination of a major geopolitical figure and I will have to kill you if you are able to recognize me and blow my cover.”

    How did the author know…?

    • I’m still digging through the 1000+ comments on that post, DEM! I loved this comment from Marcella of abyss2hope:

      @Lauren, you make good points about statements which use “living in fear.”
      What I find interesting is how acceptable some men find it when women limit the scope of their lives (don’t ride the bus alone, etc) as supposed rape prevention while they find it unacceptable that women are assessing men’s individual behavior and attitudes in order to estimate the probability that he is a danger to them.
      I’ve seen this too often from men:
      A woman never going out alone at night: acceptable.
      A woman out alone at night who refuses to talk to him because his potential as a rapist is unknown: unacceptable.
      When I am assessing other people’s behavior and attitudes I’m not living in fear, I’m doing a risk assessment based both on personal experience and research. Beyond a risk assessment for crime victimization, there are some attitudes which I will not volunteer to have in my life.

  2. It was an amazing post.

    • This was another comment, from the OP (Starling) that I thought was very appropriate for some of the WATM commentors who find the idea that women engage in risk analysis about men who are nearby horribly offensive and unfair:

      Starling: “All us adults are Schrödinger’s Child Abductors, and we have managed to live with the fact that we don’t approach strange children and offer to give them candy and/or show them a puppy, even if all we want to do is give them candy and show them a puppy. Because, dude.”

  3. That Masters swimming champ woman, so awesome, yet even though she dedicated her gold medal to Alan Jones (yes, misguided, but anyway), he STILL had to make some remark on her appearance (“Don’t wear that swimsuit”). It seems we’re never too old to escape rude comments on our beauty2K compliance.

  4. D’oh, I meant, never old enough to escape rude comments etc.

  5. I would hazard that “rewarding” the poor woman with seeing Andre Rieu is actually a backhanded attempt to intimidate women out of competing. *deadpan*

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