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69 responses to “Yet another Dickwolves post”

  1. QoT

    I am so filled with rage on this one. And your not so much with just(!) an insensitive rape joke is so on the nose because the number of people I’ve talked to about this who still honestly think the initial strip isn’t the problem – they *completely* get that Gabe and Tycho’s response and subsequent actions are beyond the pale but can’t bring the same condemnation onto the original, rape-joke-making comic.

    (And just pre-emptively in case you’ve got any of the usual suspects hanging about: yes, I *do* understand the point of the original comic, I even think that point is a funny one. Dickwolves, not so much.)

  2. uniquerhys

    “Extra thought: note how in the game example in the original webcomic, the game structure of points being awarded for flashy show-off displays of minor border encroachments that hardly impinge upon the unjust scenario, with no points being awarded for dismantling the underlying injustice, is what incentivises the players to ignore the ethics of allowing the unjust scenario to stand”

    Exactly. I’ve been more aware of such unjustices in games since the comic came out. They could have made the point without reinforcing other kinds of injustice, and then digging the hole deeper.

    Example from Starcraft 2: On one campaign level, you have to evacuate 50 colonists from a planet being invaded by the Zerg. Lose one or two and a few extras are added to make up the 50. So obviously there are more than 50 people on the planet to begin with, but they only get a seat on the shuttle if the evacuating commander (the player) screws up and gets someone higher on the list killed. That and the commander loses about 100+ highly trained marines to get 50 civvies off the planet. No points are awarded for shooting the Zerg drop-pods out of the sky before they land, giving enough time to get everyone off-world.

  3. Jessica M.

    So I found this post on the Debacle timeline. I’ve been going through and reading everything it links to, and I was wondering what you thought of the post on there by Erron Kelly? He links to the same post you did from Shakesville but uses it to point out some sort of disturbing things. I’m not sure how I feel about that blog anymore.

  4. Helen

    I’m not across this entire issue as I’m not a comics or gaming fan, but let me just say I’ve had comments on my own blog which demonstrate that it is possible to be a rape survivor and also hold rape apologist tropes. (My rape was real rape, hers isn’t.) Therefore, even if MM had known that certain commenters were survivors, it shouldn’t necessarily trump everything that was actually written.

  5. Andy

    If feminists are not a monolithic group, and you can’t blame one group of feminists for the actions of another, then “neckbeards” are not a monolithic group, and you can’t blame one group for the actions of another.

  6. SunlessNick

    The fact that he received a threat, in his mind, meant that things had gone too far and needed to end.

    And most tellingly, the fact that his critics had did not.

  7. Jacob

    Melissa knows this and chose the words “behaving like a rapist” instead of “being a rapist” very very carefully.

    But Melissa also knows very well the power of words and has pointed out again and again that the speaker’s/writer’s intent is irrelevant if someone is offended by their words. I too have no formal social sciences education and see little more in the phrase “behaving like a rapist” than “someone who is a rapist but hasn’t actually committed the crime yet,” and would suggest that this is a perfectly reasonable reading since most people don’t have social science education.

    It seems to me that you saying “Right at the beginning of his posts he points out that he lacks training in the social sciences, and here’s where that really shows.” is not so different from someone being offended by the use of the word ‘lame’ and me saying “If you understood the evolution of American English better, then you would see why this isn’t offensive.”

    (Trigger warning for rape below)

    Also, RE the quote by fucknopennyarcade:

    I began receiving death threats, threats of rape, and direct threats of violence within literally twenty-four hours of creating this tumblr.

    Do you really believe that Tycho and Gabe haven’t been receiving death threats/threats of violence this whole time? Heck, I would bet that some of 4chan has been trolling PA, because that’s what Anonymous likes to do (“Dear Tycho, I think that you should be raped and then told that it didn’t happen!!!)

    I don’t know if any of the people disturbed by PA’s response had their families threatened, but I think that it’s unfair to minimize Gabe’s anguish to “Gosh, I got a threat! Let’s put the brakes on this!” I think that it was more likely the inclusion of people, specifically children, who were not involved in this controversy at all that made him realize things were going much too far.

    As reprehensible as the troll’s actions on both sides were (and in my opinion, the more reprehensible were the one’s targeting rape survivors, since presumably Tycho and Gabe are reasonably inured to death threats), I think most would agree that threatening children is not acceptable behavior in any form.

  8. Helen

    Well, it’s an ill wind that blows noone any good: It got Richie posting again!

  9. Jacob

    This, I definitely agree with:

    Again, threats of violence are unacceptable. At any time. To anybody.

    But I would add the caveat that as much as we want any threat of violence to be unacceptable, the cultural undertow is that violence in some forms (eg. war) is acceptable. Therefore, if people have been viewing this as a battle, then threatening the combatants might seem more acceptable (again, I agree with you that threats and name-calling have no place at all in any sort of debate) than threatening non-combatants — just like targeting civilians is a war crime.

    Presumably you’re referring to the 4chan trollers playing both sides rather than accusing rape survivors of trolling simply by expressing their objections. I certainly hope so.

    I am definitely not accusing rape survivors of trolling by expressing criticism towards PA. However, there are more people on Team AntiDickwolf (is there a better name to use here? I’d rather not use this one, but it’s the most succinct I can think of) than just 4channers playing both sides and rape survivors. To say that the AntiDickwolves are all saints except for some 4channers is obviously not true. What is fucknopennyarcade if not a troll (setting aside the possibility that they are indeed a 4channer)?

    This reaction encapsulates the whole point of the objections to the original comic and stronger objections to the responses. As long as it was just silly oversensitive rape victims making a fuss by saying “this scares me and that’s unfair” it wasn’t just not considered important, it was considered ridiculous to ask Team Dickwolves to be just a little bit more thoughtful, just a little bit more kind. Every single request for just a bit of empathy was met with contempt or indifference.

    This ties in to the last point, but I’ve seen this sentiment a lot – that the people on Team AntiDickwolves did absolutely nothing but express their hurt in such a reasonable way as “this scares me and that’s unfair”. I don’t have access to PA’s email, of course, but I think that a lot of the mail, in response to both the original and follow up comic, was likely accusatory and not likely to garner the response that those concerned had hoped for. Some of this is certainly a matter of ignorance on PA’s (and my, and many other’s) part about what being told that you are complicit in supporting rape culture means, but before this last week, I too would have gotten defensive if someone had said that of me. Still, while I agree that PA has not shown much empathy in this entire saga, to say that all Team AntiDickwolves asked for was a bit of empathy is disingenuous.

    I bet that Gabe and Tycho haven’t received nearly the volume of threats that rape survivors have received from people who are not obviously just trollish shit-stirring but who are instead scarily credible threats, who are actively engaging in bullying using intimidation as a form of silencing.

    I definitely agree that G&T probably haven’t gotten as many threatening messages about this as the people on Team AntiDickwolves, but that doesn’t mean that we can just ignore it (threats are unacceptable at any time, etc). I also agree (which I tried to spell out in my earlier post) that the threats and bullying have a much greater effect on the rape survivors in Team AntiDickwolves than on G&T, which does mean that I hold non-trolls on Team Dickwolves more accountable for careless discourse than I do those on Team AntiDickwolves.

    But hey! Let a Team Dickwolves figurehead who has been refusing to listen for over 6 months start saying “this upsets my wife and that’s unfair” (why doesn’t it upset him, btw?), and all of a sudden everybody’s supposed to start listening to him, to start caring about what he feels, because what he has to say is important.

    I can see this reading of his post, but that’s not how I read it at all. Due to his privilege (and mine, as well), He has tuned this out for 99% of the last 6 months. Does that mean that he has room to grow as a person? Sure, but that doesn’t mean that he has just been ignoring the strife of Team AntiDicwolves — He hasn’t even realized that there was strife to begin with. In the most recent flareup of the last few days, he even said that he expected this to blow over quickly, and I think that when he finally saw it wouldn’t he decided to call an end to it. This is the other thing that I think is important: he was calling an end to it on PA’s side only. He posted this on the PA blog, for PA readers, the vast majority of which either have no or only a passing knowledge of this debacle, or support him. If he had posted this on Twitter, or on Shakesville, or on Kirbybit’s blog, then I would agree that telling rape survivors to just ignore it is missing the point and quite offensive.

    Also, on a separate but related note, thank you, and many other bloggers who have written in a similar vein, for covering this. I have learned a ton about myself and about others, and find myself aligning further and further with Team AntiDickwolves.

  10. Jacob

    Agh! Our posts crossed again!

    I see a distinction between flaming and trolling, don’t you? Trolls often incite flamewars or jump in to escalate them, but it’s not a ‘war’ unless most of the flaming is coming from genuinely angry/upset people with an emotional investment in the issue.

    I seem to be not giving any of this enough nuance today. It’s been a while since I’ve posted online, and I’m a bit rusty. You’re right, I was using troll to encompass flaming as well, but they are totally different, and I too would classify fucknopennyarcade as a flamer rather than a troll. In that case, I think we are in agreement that Team DW has by and large been the only place that trolls (at least publicly) have surfaced.

  11. lazydaze

    I first heard of this controversy on the weekend. I know penny arcade, find them funny but dont read them religiously.

    I think context is key though and the original comic that created the uproar does read differently depending how familiar you are with MMORPG’s. In games like these because any player can take the quest at any time it is like its stuck in an infinite loop, as soon as you rescue the hostages or whatever more will respawn like you were never there. So in the comic, there would always be a 6th, 7th, 8th slave onwards to infinity. It just keeps going.

    Thats why I dont think its a rape joke, but a joke about how online video games sense of reality doesnt fit in with our own. It features rape in the setup however and some people get offended at this, but in my opinion it just seemed like a throwaway line than anything more sinister. It could have been just as funny if it didnt have the r word IMO.

    The aftermath however the PA guys certainly could have handled themselves better. When they got accused of supporting rape culture it was probably a term they had never heard of, and taking the term at face value I can see why they thought accusations of supporting rape culture = supporting rape. They probably should have just apologised to those that were offended, explained that PA has a more sense of humour that not isnt for everyone and moved on, instead there was this back and forth that lasted for months.

    I think it shows that both the PA and shakesville communities are both fairly insular and stubborn who could both learn to see the issue from another persons point of view at times. PA have been opponents for censorship in games so they arent gonna give in and shakesville have been blogging about rape culture since forever. They have opposing views and will never agree, so why argue about it for 5 months?

  12. Mindy

    *headdesk*

    Rinse, repeat. Ad nauseum.

  13. Mindy

    it just seemed like a throwaway line than anything more sinister.

    There’s your rape culture right there. Rape is just a throwaway line. Who cares? That’s why if is fucking sinister. Rape is not funny. Especially not for rape survivors. Yet these guys can’t even begin to understand that until someone threatens their family – which is way beyond the pale. But even then they can’t understand that other people have been feeling that way from.the.very.beginning.

    And yes, the comic strip could have been funny. All they had to do was leave out the gratuitous rape reference. It doesn’t matter if you don’t think it’s a rape joke. Survivors of rape feel that it trivialises what they experienced, and it fucking well does and for that they deserve an apology, not five months of death threats, rape threats, and trolling.

  14. lazydaze

    @mindy

    I’m not really here to defend the PA guys, I think their response after the backlash wasnt great and as I said I think the comic could have been fine without the r word.

    I think context and meaning is important, and there is a reason a three panel comic gets different reactions from people. Was it offensive to people, certainly, did they intend it to be offensive, I’m guessing not.

    By their initial reaction you could tell the two PA guys were completely unfamiliar with the term rape culture and if they understood the term perhaps they wouldnt have made their original dumb response.

    PA have made these sort of jokes for their entire history and certainly ones more offensive than that one. They seem to have an all or nothing approach to comedy and I dont think their would ever be a compromise between both sides. Hence a 5 month long internet war.

    and it fucking well does and for that they deserve an apology, not five months of death threats, rape threats, and trolling.

    From what I’ve read both Shakesville and the PA guys have received death and rape threats, that of course is revolting. I dont think the PA or shakesville endorse or are behind such vile threats, but it is what happens when internet wars get nasty. Another blog suspected 4chan was behind the nastiest threats, that wouldnt surprise me.

    I wish these things could end with “I see where you are coming from but I respectfully disagree” rather than it ending in death threats from anonymous internet crazies.

  15. Mindy

    @ lazydaze

    I’m positive they didn’t mean it to be offensive, it just never occurred to them that it could be. Where they went wrong is in not admitting that it could be offensive and then escalating it beyond all reason when a simple apology would have done.

  16. QoT

    I think context is key though and the original comic that created the uproar does read differently depending how familiar you are with MMORPG’s.

    Allow me to preface my response with a bit of gamer self-gratification.

    I am a 30 month veteran of City of Heroes. I have one Level 50 and around 20 alts between levels 20 and 40. My 50 has over 400 badges.

    I. Fucking. Get. MMORPG. Culture.

    The point of the comic has already been addressed extensively by tigtog (yes, lol, your hero isn’t heroic because you only rescue the requisite number of slaves, well done.)

    The point of the comic did not require the use of rape as a punchline. The point of the comic did not require the creation* of a creature entirely designed to rape.

    The point of the comic did not require the use of the phrase “raped to sleep” which feeds into ~edgy~ gamer geek exaggeration (cf Futurama “death by snoo-snoo”).

    The comic could just as easily have read “and every night the necromancers harvest our souls and use them for Christmas lights”.

    But instead Gabe and Tycho deliberately used the common** geek trope of throwing the word “rape” around to look edgy and hip and ironic because they aren’t actually aware and don’t actually give a shit about the fact that we are soaking in a culture which trivialises and demeans the act of rape and the experiences of victims.

    And my level 50 emp/psi defender with psionic mastery ancillary powers, half a suit of Vanguard armour and a portable field craft station thinks that’s a bit shit.

    *YES I AM AWARE THEY HAD PREVIOUSLY CITED THE EXISTENCE OF DICKWOLVES.
    **COMMON =/= OKAY

  17. lazydaze

    I. Fucking. Get. MMORPG. Culture.

    Ummm, why the anger then? I’ve been respectful, perhaps you can do the same? All I’m going on was this post, which did not give any context to the original comic. How am I meant to know how much everyone has read up on a subject? And even so why get aggro at me?

    The point of the comic did not require the use of rape as a punchline. The point of the comic did not require the creation* of a creature entirely designed to rape.

    Yes and if you read my comment I said more or less the exact same thing

    It could have been just as funny if it didnt have the r word IMO.

    But yes, blame me. For what I’m not sure but carry on.

  18. lazydaze

    The first two comments on this discussion thread

    I didnt read every comment or every link. Is that really a realistic requirement for commenting on a blog? I assumed MMO tropes arent very well known amongst non-gamers, perhaps I was wrong. If it came off as condescending to say how it could be interpreted that wasnt my intention. And I certainly dont think I deserve to be sworn at even if it was interpreted as condescending.

  19. SunlessNick

    I didnt read every comment or every link. Is that really a realistic requirement for commenting on a blog?

    I don’t see how it could be unrealistic to expect someone to read the links offered for context before judging whether context is provided.

  20. lazydaze

    i saw your comments come in twice and then disappear, i thought it was weirdness at my end :/

    Also, the swearing? We’re fucking Australian*

    I’m offended at your swearing, fucking offended :)

  21. lazydaze

    Also, why would you assume that bloggers and commentors here are non-gamers?

    I’ve been a gamer all my life, and although it is more mainstream than it ever has been I still as my default position that its alien to most people. This could be because I was heavily into tabletop wargames and pen and paper roleplaying games as well, which was quite a small and close knit subculture when I was involved.

    The amount of times I had to explain dnd from scratch to bemused people wondering what we are doing with the funny die and equipment, I guess I’m more used to gaming being less mainstream than it now is.

  22. QoT

    @lazydaze: Here’s the thing. My hostility wasn’t actually just for you, so I do somewhat apologise that you got both barrels of it.

    But *if* you check the context, you’ll see that the whole bloody “oh but you just need to understand gamer culture, silly feminists” argument has been absolutely done to death on this issue for literally months.

    And even without that history, it is fucking insulting to just assume that feminist bloggers and gamers are somehow mutually exclusive groups. Not to mention that to even be willing to put forward the “oh but gamer culture” argument directly implies that something being gamer-related means the trivialisation of rape is okay as long as your punchline is funny to geeks.

  23. lazydaze

    And even without that history, it is fucking insulting to just assume that feminist bloggers and gamers are somehow mutually exclusive groups.

    As I said I’m still used I’m still used to gaming to be in the non-mainstream den of the geeks. Its nothing to do with this being a feminist blog, more that it isnt a gaming blog. Perhaps thats changed these days with everyone and their cat having a WoW account and the average person probably treats games like another piece of entertainment like film and music rather than something different. I dont know what I can say to prove that its not my intention to piss everyone off.

    But *if* you check the context, you’ll see that the whole bloody “oh but you just need to understand gamer culture, silly feminists” argument has been absolutely done to death on this issue for literally months.

    As I said I first heard of this over the weekend, that probably means that everything I said has been said a thousand times before. If thats the case it wasnt my intention to lecture anyone.

    Not to mention that to even be willing to put forward the “oh but gamer culture” argument directly implies that something being gamer-related means the trivialisation of rape is okay as long as your punchline is funny to geeks.

    I dont know if I articulated it well but I guess what I was trying to say is that I thought the original comic would read differently depending on how familiar the reader is with MMO’s. I assume to someone who is completely unfamiliar with MMO’s that the joke would come off as much more sinister as intended.

    I think the comic would have fine without the r word, and that the PA guys messed up with their response to this, but I think their crime is ignorance and stupidity more than anything else. Does that excuse their dumb response to this, no.

    What really pisses me off is that this led to death and rape threats being made to the Shakesville founder and one of the PA guys family. I just loathe how these internet wars, trolls and such get nasty.

  24. Mindy

    Please note: lazydaze this comment is not directed at you, it is a gross generalisation about male gamers ideas about gaming and women generally. Being a gross generalisation it won’t apply to everyone, and if it’s not about you, it’s not about you. Okay?

    I read a really good comment on one of the links yesterday (sorry can’t remember which one) which said “Yes girl gamers are out there, and yes we are avoiding you. Personally.” She converts her girlfriends into gamers rather than go to places where male gamers congregate because she doesn’t like the atmosphere.

    So Girl/Women Gamers are out there, or there are women like me married to gamers. He took me to see his wargames convention and I didn’t run. He built a special wargames table that took up the best part of the double garage and I didn’t run. He painted it and put that green felty crumby stuff all over it and invited friends down for hours of game play and I didn’t run. But when we moved we didn’t take the table. So I get the game play stuff too. I know what it is to lose hours playing Diablo. I was a evil neutral character in D&D and I was good at it. We still have 12 and 20 sided dice scattered around the house. We own a t-shirt that says “Jesus Saves” on the front and “Only takes half damage” on the back. There are lots more of us than anyone thinks.

    Also, anyone remember the huge outcry when Hex came onto Good Game replacing Junglist? How dare the ABC go for ‘mass market appeal’. How dare they actually acknowledge that there are women and girls out there playing computer games.

  25. lazydaze

    @mindy

    I wonder if MMO’s are killing off the old pen and paper RPG’s. It seems like a lot of work to get a game together when we can just go online and play something. It does seem that there is very little role playing going on in MMO’s, it just aint the same as a good dungeon master setting the scene.

    I think Hex is a really good addition to Good Game. Junglist was good to, shame they couldnt have all three on the show.

  26. lauredhel

    “So Girl/Women Gamers are out there”

    … and indeed, right here. At least one blogger at this blog started pen ‘n’ paper tabletop RPGing nearly three decades ago, had PONG and Atari consoles, was damn excited to get her first tape drive for her ZX81 so she could stop typing BASIC games in by hand from zines every time, and was a keen player of what was possibly the first online multi-user dungeon game with an Australian userbase; and is now helping guide a second generation.

  27. QoT

    As I said I’m still used I’m still used to gaming to be in the non-mainstream den of the geeks. Its nothing to do with this being a feminist blog, more that it isnt a gaming blog. Perhaps thats changed these days with everyone and their cat having a WoW account and the average person probably treats games like another piece of entertainment like film and music rather than something different. I dont know what I can say to prove that its not my intention to piss everyone off.

    Two problems I have with this statement.

    1. Insert generic comment about “what happens when you assume” here.

    2. This has nothing to do with gaming being more mainstream, and nothing to do with “everyone and their cat having a WoW account”. This is about the assumption you made that women on a feminist blog would need big-boy-pants MMORPG culture explained to them, and how much that says about gamer culture. As though feminists or women would be inherently less likely to be gamers (an assumption apparently supported by your defence that “gaming must be more mainstream now” i.e. feminists couldn’t possibly have be thought to be gamers In The Time Before WoW.)

    … not to mention the fact that as the big ol’ gamer I am, I still reject the notion that the comic “reads differently” to people based on their gamer cred. It still trivialises rape. It still uses rape as a ho-ho-ho-aren’t-we-edgy punchline. My gamer friends get that. My non-gamer friends get that.

  28. lazydaze

    1. Insert generic comment about “what happens when you assume” here.

    Likewise, you seemed to assume that my assumptions on not knowing about MMO’s was based on this being a feminist blog, we can talk about assumptions upon assumption upon assumptions but its making me dizzy. I have nothing more to add that I didnt intend to annoy/belittle/patronise anyone and that I didnt assume that MMO tropes would be unfamiliar with the people here because of their gender. Honestly if I offended you it wasnt my intention and I apologise.

    “gaming must be more mainstream now” i.e. feminists couldn’t possibly have be thought to be gamers In The Time Before WoW.)

    same thing, my assumptions werent based on gender or feminism. I did not mean mainstream = girls now play video games ZOMG

    I still reject the notion that the comic “reads differently” to people based on their gamer cred.

    Everything can be interpreted differently, art would be kind of dull if it wasn’t. There is no universal code to determine what is offensive and what is acceptable when it comes to satire or art. My point was that the comic was aimed at gamers and the meaning of the final panel where the “hero” leaves the slave would probably be lost on someone unfamiliar with the mechanics of your typical MMO game. I think the intentions of the comics creators is important. There is a difference between intentionally setting out to mock rape victims and unintentionally doing so because they arent familiar with rape culture, triggers and treating rape as callously as they did in their response. It doesn’t excuse anything, but I don’t think we can change attitudes unless we look at the reasons people have formed those attitudes.

  29. QoT

    I’m not giving Jerry a free pass since he hasn’t called Krahulik out for it

    I think Richie absolutely perfectly knocked both guys’ recent statements on this out of the park.

  30. The Amazing Kim

    @ QoT

    That’s absolutely hilarious – thanks for posting it.

    Been staying out of this discussion because I’m too busy making a game where points are awarded for flashy show-off displays of minor border encroachments that don’t begin to dismantle the inherently unjust mechanism. :P

    And I’m just so sick of this pattern of conversation whenever a feminist criticises something. It’s like fine mental sandpaper, slowly filing away my patience. But if you listen closely, you’ll hear the sound of ruffling pompoms as I jump up and down on the sidelines, cheering.

  31. Mindy

    Richie did a really good analysis, and now he’s being attacked in comments on his post because, you know, we really should give the PA guys a break because they were really, like, surprised by the reaction to this and they really are the victims here, mmmkay? Yeah, guys are surprised at being taken to task for being arseholes and get their feelings hurt.

  32. Liam

    To derail the thread slightly, TT and TAK, on this point:

    the cognitively dissonant immorality of gameplay heroics is a standard late-night-over-pizza dorm discussion rather than any surprising new analysis

    Brett Holman did a very good recent post on the a/morality of games and simulations which surpasses the late-night-pizza standard.

  33. Napalmnacey

    I would just like to say:

    I wish these things could end with “I see where you are coming from but I respectfully disagree” rather than it ending in death threats from anonymous internet [ableist slur redacted].

    No. Never. I will never, ever respectfully disagree with anyone who thinks it’s within their rights to joke about the most traumatic, horrible, demeaning experience of a person’s life. I refuse to respectfully disagree with two grown men who goad their masses of fans into cruelly taunting and harrassing people who are already traumatised by something so horrendous that nobody can understand the true severity of the crime, the damage, the pain, unless they’ve gone through it themselves.

    I reserve my respect for people that actually give a crap about other human beings. I have every bloody right to reserve that respect, and that doesn’t make me an internet “cr*zy”, thank you very bloody much. And no, I’m not angry at you. I’m not attacking you. I’m deconstructing the hell out of an internet narrative, and if that makes you uncomfortable, there’s not a lot I can do about that. Just rest assured, this ain’t personal (as in, this comment directed at you).

  34. Napalmnacey

    I may have just knee-jerked. :T

  35. lazydaze

    , and that doesn’t make me an internet “cr*zy”, thank you very bloody much

    Unless you were one of the ones sending death threats to the Penny Arcade guy or the founder of Shakesville I wasnt talking about you. Read it again.

    than it ending in death threats from anonymous internet [ableist slur redacted]

    That is not referring to you, or the majority of people who are taking issue with the PA guys, just the people who think sending death threats are acceptable.

  36. orlando

    But they went for lazy humour drawing on overused tropes, they misjudged how much of their audience don’t just find those overused tropes unfunny but actively find them alienating, and then got really thin-skinned about people pointing this out.

    A precise description, methinks, of last year’s Stephen Fry debacle as well. There really should be some kind of lesson here…

  37. Mindy

    No, I don’t think so Napalmnacey, and you didn’t make any death threats either. Respectfully disagreeing with someone who has respected your opinions and feelings throughout is something, telling you that your feelings and opinions are worth less than their ‘right’ to make jokes about rape and tell survivors to suck it up is not respect in any way, sense, or form. Respect has to work both ways and they got it wrong, again and again, first. It’s a bit late to demand respect now.

  38. Lauredhel

    This may be one of those moderately-pointless “+1″ comments, but – exactly what Mindy said.

  39. kirstente

    I’m dithering about posting this, because it’s a whole other argument waiting to happen. But it matters.

    Can I request that people stop using ‘internet crazies’ to refer to those trolling and sending violent threats? I know that many people using it this why aren’t necessarily equating ‘crazy’ with ‘mentally ill’, but that is one of its meanings. It feels very insensitive as at least one of the rape survivors involved in this has a mental health problem, and one of the justifications used to dismiss her views is that she’s ‘crazy’.

  40. Napalmnacey

    @Kirstente – I thought the air-quotes would be adequate in showing my disdain for the term, but obviously they didn’t. I’m sorry if that caused you any hurt. I suffer from PTSD and depression, and quite possibly OCD (some psychs say yes, others say no) so I don’t think using terms from the mental health profession in years past OR terms to be derogatory to those with mental illnesses is appropriate. I’m sorry I wasn’t more on the ball.

    @lazydaze – I know it wasn’t about me. But asking people to to “respectfully disagree” in this situation is disingenuous at best and offensive at worst.

    @lauredhel and @Mindy – Thanks. The rage just bubbled up and I had to let it out, but I always try to temper it with reason. It’s hard when it’s something so very personal and hurtful.

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