Maybe it’s only because I’m full of the flu and curmudgeonly as hell today, but the inevitable angel-washing after the latest celebrity cancer death is pissing me off. She was, apparently, brave (i.e. uncomplaining).
You know, I’m sure she was, at least with most people, I’m sure she did it for the purpose of not upsetting them. That was extremely generous of her, to shield others from any bitterness she probably felt.
But would it have been so bad if she’d got really angry at the fact that she was going to die? If in fact she had not been a particularly comfortable person to live with in her last few months because she was raging at the unfairness of it all?
Why should people in pain and suffering, whether they are dying or not, be expected to be “brave”? Just to make the rest of us feel better about not having to think too much about how it sucks to be them?