Otterday! And Open Thread.

Clam doughnuts! This sea otter at Vancouver Aquarium is bashing a circular iceblock to get to the clams frozen inside.

Please feel free to use this thread to natter about anything your heart desires. Is there anything great happening in your life? Anything you want to get off your chest? Reading a great book? Anything in the news that you’d like to discuss? Commiserations, felicitations, temptations, contemplations, speculations?

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  1. Personal testbed server that I use for work is dieing, just as we are broke because made a $3000 payment to get rid of a debt once and for all.
    Other than that, lurking around everywhere because I’ve been working so many hours.

  2. I don’t feel like nattering, but the chance to float belly-up in the water and stare at the sky sounds fantastic right now.
    What is it about water that just makes you feel pure, free? I think about floating on my back and I just can’t imagine feeling any pain at all. I just imagine the difference in feeling of water and air on my skin, and the warm bright sun, and the weird different ways water holds your weight… totally divorced from negative body experiences.

  3. I took a huge step this week. I have always resisted using anything other than a cane to get around because I feared how people would respond to me. This meant that every time I decided to go shopping, I would be on the couch for two days recovering. This week while we were in Zellers (big box dept store) I noticed that they had courtesy motorized wheelchairs for the shoppers. As I stood in front of it trying to decide whether to use it or not, I was actually shaking.
    I finally took the leap, put the key in and got moving. I tooted around the store and for the first time in forever I could keep up with the unhusband and was not hurting, aching, or on the verge of crying. Yes, I did get the looks I thought I would but it didn’t matter. I was just so happy to be doing something I used to do without feeling any kind of pain. When we finally finished shopping I wasn’t in any pain and I actually felt rejuvenated.
    I started to envision how owning one of these would mean I could go on “walks” with my family again. If I owned one of these it would give me my mobility back. I think I am over my shame…Living life is more important to me right now than how people look at me because I am sitting in a wheelchair.

  4. Good for you, Renee! I’ve seen some people with stamina and mobility challenges do really well with those mobility-scooters rather than wheelchairs, too – and they seem to have more flexibility for going on “walks” outside – depends what will best suit your needs, obviously.
    I’m 2/3 of the way through reading the comments on one of the best HAES/IE posts I’ve read for ages from fillyjonk over at Shapely Prose. I’ve bookmarked it for tomorrow’s FemmoStroppo Reader, but it’s so good I’m mentioning it here as well.

  5. Renee, when Don finally got a wheelchair it was like the whole world opened up for us. Sometimes when I think about how difficult things were just a few months ago, compared to now, I want to cry.
    I know there’s a lot of stuff wrapped up in getting a wheelchair. We call his mom’s reactions “having vapours” because she is just not coping with her son “looking disabled”. But oh, the difference in his quality of life. And, quite frankly, mine as well. We went for a walk in the beautiful evening yesterday and we haven’t done that without it being a huge major drama since we left Edmonton in 2005.

  6. Renee: That sounds wonderful ^^ I have a friend who has muscular distrophy and the last time I saw him, he proceeded to show off his new wheelchair, with which he could lean back or raise himself to be at face-level with me. He was proud of it, and not exceedingly so. It was much more that it was one of those things that has to be shown off, like a new cellphone or laptop.
    I recently launched the “acting out” edition of my blog on Blogger. LJ doesn’t allow me to do scheduled posts and I don’t like doing multiple posts in one day.

  7. just saw Kate Harding’s Facebook update – she’s being interviewed on ABC radio today, right about now. Just off to find it!

  8. I found a boxed set of ‘My So-Called Life’ at the 2nd hand shop a couple of weeks ago, and have been watching it for the first time.
    This sounds like an odd thing to notice about it, but I can’t help thinking that the show was INCREDIBLY progressive in the way it wrote Ricki, one of Angela’s friends. It’s implicitly acknowledged that he’s gay, but his conflicts as a character have almost nothing to do with the fact that he is gay. (He is abused at home, and lives on the street for a time, which is obviously a very real issue with gay teens, but there’s nothing in the show to suggest that Ricki is singled out for this storyline specifically because he’s ‘the gay one,’ if that makes sense!)
    It’s been pointed out that in Australia, we hardly ever see an Aboriginal character on TV or in a movie whose character is barely defined outside issues that are considered unique to Aboriginality. I often think the same thing about portrayal of gays.
    Anyway, am loving ‘My So-Called Life.’ Such a committed and nuanced performance from Claire Danes at such a young age, and also fab in that it depicts teenage life without talking down to or patronising its audience.

  9. Hello, Hoydenish types! I haven’t been on one of these threads in a while.
    So the major news in my life is that I just came out online about being disabled.* It’s called the Not Staying Silent Series, in case you wanted to read. Very difficult to think about, write and publish but so. utterly. worth it. I feel like I’m living more wholely. And I’ve got heaps of positive feedback. All the support is very timely as all this has coincided with a downturn in my condition. Such is life, I guess. Conversation is wonderful: we can all feel a bit less alone.
    Anyway, I just wrote a letter to council concerning discrimination against me, which is fully preventable and of which they are fully aware. It feels good to just tell it like it is and not tiptoe aroudn anyone. So I might go pop it in the post this afternoon.
    I’ve taken up knitting. Anyone got any favourite projects I should file away to have a go at when I get better?
    * *coughseethatBeppie?cough*
    Chally’s last blog post..Various announcements on various carnivals, including a reminder to submit to DUFC!

  10. Dollhouse discussion links:
    The Angry Black Woman: ”The problem with Dollhouse is not that I don’t understand subtlety”:

    The problem here is not that I don’t appreciate subtlety and I don’t need a show to explicitly point an arrow at a character and scream, “This person is BAD OMG, hate hiiimmm!” After all, I watch Doctor Who, a show about the subtlest subtle asshole who ever subtled through time. I also love Dexter, another show one of the commenters brought up. In the latter, the wrongness of the main characters actions is perhaps a bit more obvious (he’s a serial killer, can’t get much more wrong than that) and with the former there are differing opinions on whether the show’s opinion is that the Doctor is a jerk. In both cases I watch and enjoy because I trust that the show’s creators/writers know what they’re on about. The bottom line is: I don’t trust Joss Whedon.
    I don’t accept his feminist cred as a given. I don’t accept his talent/genius as a given. And that colors all of my reactions to Dollhouse — both the premise and the actual episodes I’ve watched.

    and Feminist SF – The Blog!: “Working in the Dollhouse”:

    I like Whedon and Dushku and I’d like to see what they come up with when the network backs off a bit. That doesn’t mean what they come up with will be any good. It just means I have a somewhat positive impression of their track record and am willing to give them some time to find their way. Viewers don’t owe Dollhouse that time. It’s a gift. […]
    the [Depends On What You Pay] vid is only triggering, however, if you get the horror of the show’s premise and work to make the connection between the words of the song and the scenes before you. And it is work. I’m saying this as a film scholar. The rape scenes on Dollhouse are rarely shot as rapes. They’re party scenes, sport fucks, “lurve-making”. The horror is intellectual, not yet on screen — at least not often. This isn’t about subtlety for me, it’s about a lackluster use of the medium. The shots are too glammy. The editing doesn’t make you question what’s going on.

  11. Chally: I’m really glad you’re feeling whole about your coming out, and that you’re ‘in’ the conversations now. What’s your council been up to?

  12. Well, I’m coming to the Dollhouse without having anything else from Joss, aside from a few episodes of Buffy over the course of a number of years. So I’m certainly not invested in the idea that he’s the world’s greatest feminist man, but niether do I have the experience of enjoying his work only to have misogyny thrown in my face. I just see a show that invokes a numerous tropes that are considered “sexy” and “romantic” and then undermines them — certainly, it is not always done effectively (I see Shannan Palma’s point about the editing), and there does need to be more acknowledgement that what happens to the Actives is rape (though the recent episode in which Sierra confronts her attacker makes me think it is going in that direction), but I’m not willing to give up on it yet, because in many instances it IS effective (the Rhianna episode, the recent one where Echo, Sierra and Co. were allowed to “break out” for a little while), and it’s pretty damn rare to find anyone attempting to undermine those “romantic” and “sexy” narratives at all. Having said that, I do think it’s unfair to accuse feminists who feel different of not getting the “subtlety” of the show — I can see where Angry Black Woman is coming from, even if I read the show differently to her.

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