Items of interest found recently in my RSS feed. What did I miss? Please share what you've been reading (and writing!) in the comments.
- On Being a Woman, Not "a Female"
- Ian: “Too Pretty To Do Math”
- What Is Affirmative Consent?
- Teabaggers Losing Their Damned Minds
- Predator Theory
- Seriously, why are they so obsessed with rape metaphors?
- The Arts as a Healing Balm for Mansplaining's Psychic Ills
– “I also realized that one of the reasons it had stuck in my head was that using the word “females” to refer to women was absolutely not something my mother would normally have done. It was a deliberate choice; and yes, it was intended to dehumanize, and specifically to “dewomanize”. In my mother’s view, these two people did not deserve the appellation “woman” . They failed to qualify for it by being “large”, i.e. fat and disgusting.
All of which just brings home to me again that the stuff which is hardest to see is the stuff that gets carefully packed into your own self-image from the outset. “
– “Ian (B.S., mathematics; future sociology graduate student) modeling a t-shirt bought for him by his girlfriend, who found it in the children’s section of the Goodwill in Glendale, CA:”
– “In short, there’s nothing inherently oppressive about the concept of affirmative consent. If sex was truly consensual from the perspectives of all involved then nothing changes under an effective system of affirmative consent. However, when people approach sex the way that mugger approaches other people for money then this concept will not be one they will want to embrace or want to see used in the enforcement of sex crimes statutes.”
– “the teabaggers are now resorting to the T word to express their racist Republistoked anger at the passage of health care reform.
Let’s call these people what they are and what Rep. Bart Stupak rightfully called them. Domestic terrorists.
I don’t like and have zero tolerance or respect for the Tea Klux Klan, especially after last weekend’s disgusting display protesting a bill that will prevent the insurance companies from denying them coverage due to a nebulous list of preexisting conditions.”
– “Predator Theory is the theory that acquaintance rape as we know it is overwhelmingly caused by a relatively narrow portion of recidivist undetected rapists in the population, each of whom will have several victims, and that these rapists select targets based on the likelihood that they can rape without meaningful consequence, and favor alcohol and avoid overt force as tools to defeat resistance for just this reason.”
– “But what’s both fascinating and frustrating is that when conservatives aren’t apologizing for actual rapists, it seems their understanding of what rape is reflects reality pretty well. When they use rape metaphors when describing health care, they contextualize rape as a brutal crime, a display of power over the victim for the sheer pleasure of forcing her to submit. This cartoon reflects this understanding; there’s no question that the Obama-rapist in the cartoon was confused about his Liberty-victim’s unwillingness to have sex with him. In this cartoon, in fact, the Obama-rapist gets off on the sadistic pleasure of hurting her. Which is like real life rape, but completely opposite of what conservatives say happens in these rape situations.
So, they clearly know what rape is all about, when they’re casting themselves as the victims. But when real life women are real life victims of rape, suddenly they go stupid and think it’s all a matter of too much alcohol or mixed signals. And that level of full-of-shitness pisses me off. “
– Zuska recommends some films, books and food. Oh yeah.
The Pandagon post exemplifies why I’m so annoyed with feminism.
They complain about rape as hyperbole and how this harms women, but have no problem with using disability for hyperbolic effect.
(The post is tagged as “Batsh*t crazy”, apparently ableist language is okay-o, but the word shit needs an asterisk, oh my.)
I wonder if Zuska’s post is tagged “moron management” again, I won’t look, these kind of feminists only aim to liberate middle class privileged women, and have zero interest in human rights for women like me. I suggest they stop calling themselves feminists.
It’s particularly annoying that disability rights are considered not important by feminists since rape often causes disability (PTSD and depression) and disabled women are twice as likely to get raped.
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Thanks for drawing attention to that, Kowalski. I hadn’t even noticed, and that’s part of the problem, isn’t it?
So, they clearly know what rape is all about, when they’re casting themselves as the victims. But when real life women are real life victims of rape, suddenly they go stupid and think it’s all a matter of too much alcohol or mixed signals.
Lady Liberty is an abstraction, and something they think belongs to them – that’s how the kind of people who use this cartoon understand rape – a property crime against male interested parties like themselves. Real-world rape where real-world women are the actual victims doesn’t fit into their mental space.
Well, either that or they’re just plain lying.
Just like the belief in trickle down economics I think there is a belief in trickle down social justice, that securing gains for the noisy and well resourced middle and upper class white and able will ipso facto result in gains for the rest.
If I can just say that the ‘predator theory’ chimes perfectly with my experience in the legal system, both in Australia and the UK. Relatively few men are rapists, but the ones that are do it over and over again, along with other violent crimes as well: assault occasioning bodily harm, GBH, robbery with violence.
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@su: “trickle down social justice”
this phrase had me laughing out loud, unfortunately what you said is so true.
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Cheers Kowalski – I did a quick google and I am pleased to see that I am not the first to use the phrase. I think the worst thing about it is not that this kind of belief reveals a privileged mindset but that its achievements are assimilationist rather than transformational – a few people near the top of the existing hierarchy get a seat at the big boy’s table but little changes in the structure of society and therefore for those disadvantaged by its current formation.
The rape metaphor is something I heard over and over again from men in the conservative small town in which I went to high school. Rape as a metaphor for an election they don’t agree with, or an overpriced hamburger, but never for physical or sexual assault on a woman.
@Sarah–I heard those same things growing up, and guess what? One of those boys went on to commit a rape, and the others either blamed or did not believe the victim.