This seems like a great time to focus on re-directing the debate away from regarding “raunch culture’ and “modesty’ as opposites (or worse, attitudes we must choose between), and towards acknowledging them as two sides of the same coin. Both treat a woman as a commodity, the function of which lies in being a man’s sexual receptacle, the only difference being that the former places the value on recreational, the latter on procreational sex.
In raunch/porn/hyper-sexualized culture the most valuable woman is the one the most men want to have sex with the most badly. A woman who is not desired, or who removes herself from the competition, is treated as valueless. In abstinence-glorifying/purity-ball-attending/burqua-wearing/genital-mutilating cultures a valuable woman is one who is likely to bear a man offspring that he will not doubt is his.
Both treat a woman’s own sexuality as at best inconsequential, at worst a threat. Both regard a woman as property to be valued according to her sexual usefulness. Our priority should be to insist that mainstream discourse recognise this, and stop trying to hoodwink us into treating the positions as either/or.
Very succinct analysis, Orlando. Egalitarian sexual relationships can’t happen if the culture continues to commodify either procreation or recreation re sexuality.