Otterday! And open thread.

Nyac, survivor of the Exxon Valdez oil spill and co-star of the Otters Holding Hands video, died late last year.

She developed chronic lymphocytic leukaemia, a cancer not previously known in sea otters, but associated with petroleum contact in other animals.

Here is a farewell video for her.

Please feel free to use this thread to natter about anything your heart desires. Is there anything great happening in your life? Anything you want to get off your chest? Reading a great book? Anything in the news that you’d like to discuss? Commiserations, felicitations, temptations, contemplations, speculations?

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  1. Has been thoroughly enjoying the past few weeks of Left Behind Fridays. This week’s is a cracker.

  2. I’ve been a bit disturbed by this story about the Tasmanian woman whose children have been removed and placed with their father, because apparently she wasn’t facilitating a good relationship between them even though he’d left the state in 2005.,25197,25275814-28737,00.html
    Why is it her job to maintain his relationship with his kids after he moves interstate?

  3. PP, I’m always fascinated when “children have the right to [xyz]” seems to become “we will force it on them even when they expressly do not wish it.”
    That said, after looking at the judgment, this particular case seems to be a bit more complex. The judgment makes for interesting reading (link here for anyone who’s interested); though it does concern me that the family consultant’s evidence is taken so weightedly (is that a word?) when they themselves make it clear that they’re in a position where they don’t have sufficient knowledge to provide the viewpoint normally expected from that position.
    I’m generally suspicious of “poisoning” arguments, because it’s always slippery what ‘poisoning’ is taken to mean. Take the woman in the last part of the Overington article. Is telling the child in that case that hir father assaulted hir mother ‘poisoning’? I wouldn’t be surprised at the argument, and given the custody decision, I wouldn’t be surprised at a court accepting that argument.

  4. You’ve also got to love how “parent X refuses to abide by court orders for access, doesn’t show up in court, and apparently local law enforcement aren’t doing anything about it” translates to “there’s a problem with the court system” further on in the article. And then that case is equated to “court granted parent Y access after Y assaulted parent X who was holding the child at the time.”
    In each case, X = mother and Y = father. Because a woman ignoring court orders and a man getting granted access despite a history of violence ARE TOTALLY THE SAME and prove that the Courts have been taken over by feminist witch lesbians.

  5. I have a problem with a 21-going-on-22-yr-old girlfriend dating a 40+-yr-old. Yeah, yeah, I know, it’s her life, but it’s only her second boyfriend, she’s still really naive/overly trusting/kiddish/immature (and she knows it), and he sounds just as kiddish.
    And then there’s the little tidbit that her parents freaked out over her relationship with my cousin – my cousin’s her age, poor, Muslim and, despite being Chinese, passes for Malay (brown). The new guy is a white, financially secure New Zealander living in Australia (where my friend now studies) – not a peep from her parents. Maybe they’ve mellowed out. But I can’t shake off the racist / classist overtones of this whole thing.
    Maybe I’m just being overly sensitive *sigh*

  6. @QoT I understood the phrase “At the other extreme” in the article to indicate that the “man getting granted access despite a history of violence” was understood by the writer of the article to be in fact very different to the previous case mentioned.
    I’ve managed to do almost nothing useful today except the grocery shopping. About to start cooking pea and ham soup.

  7. Thanks for linking to that, Jennifer. I really hated the overall tone of the article; that poor downtrodden fathers have won a heart-warming victory over evil ball-breaking mothers.
    Also, the traditional gender role expectations of the ruling really bug me; of course it’s always the woman’s job to smooth things over and fix the family problems. Of course the kids will begin to detach if a person in their life moves interstate.

  8. I’m thinking of trying to get the Guerrilla Girls into my city next school year. Feminsts are Funny looks like a hoot. Anyone here seen them?
    Also, I am trying to write about the rise of New Nationalism in Canada in the 70s. How am I supposed to take this seriously when it focuses on the Waffle Party, the Marshmallow Resolution, and the Pancake Group? I ❤ my country.

  9. Now that it’s almost gone, I’m going to complain. I have had a horrible sore throat most of the week, accompanied by sore ears, both so sore that I felt the need to hold my ears each time I swallowed. Now I’m just down to a snotty nose and general malaise and no energy. I couldn’t manage to get a day in bed – partner wasn’t free to stay home, kids still needed feeding and cleaning and getting to and from school, and I had to go and take my tutorials anyway. Grump grump grump. I mostly dealt with it with panadol and strepsils, and lots of self-pity.
    This coming week looks as though it will be a lot better.
    Deborah’s last blog post..What to do with old bread

  10. I hate packing. 😡

  11. Have you had any luck finding a new place, Beppie? *hug*

  12. I have no big words of wisdom, Renee, except to heartily endorse the mp3 player technique! I use it also.

  13. Just a small rant if you don’t mind. Now that it is spring here sitting in the park with the gossipy mothers is getting on my last nerve. Why is it that some feel the need to feign friendship and then start the malicious gossiping the minute someone’s back is turned? I just want to tell them that if our kids weren’t playing together I could not find five minutes in the day to chat with you. One mother is a stripper and they have been brutal about her. “Sam” is always well dressed, clean and polite, yet because of what his mother does they continually run him down. I simply see no need to act like a bunch of piranha looking for fresh blood in the water. I am thinking from now on I am heading to the part with my mp3 player, I just don’t want to hear it anymore..
    Renee’s last blog post..Black People Are Uniquely Homophobic Eh?

  14. “Why is it that some feel the need to feign friendship and then start the malicious gossiping the minute someone’s back is turned?”
    Because we’re socialised from infancy to see each other as Enemy. The old divide and conquer strategy.

  15. I always feel as though mothers in groups can be a bit like chooks in the backyard; they will peck and hound the new chook, or the unusual one. Safety in numbers, I guess.
    These days I just sail through the school yard, do my bit with classroom reading and helping in the school canteen, but not really give a damn about the social scene – it’s just not me, and I’m tired of forcing myself to try to fit in. Fortunately I have met a couple of other quite subversive mothers through doing this…
    Renee, I tried to leave a comment on your blog expressing my sympathy for the disabilities you are working with, but for some reason it didn’t take. Anyway, my sympathy, and many, many thanks for your voice in the blogosphere, which I listen to, ‘though I am definitely there in the mode of STFU and listen.
    Kia kaha! (Te reoMoari – Maori language – for “stand strong!”)

  16. Anna — yes, we have found a new place, and pick up the keys tomorrow. It just feels weird and somewhat distressing to be packing up the place that has been my home for the last five years. *hugs*
    Renee — that sounds awful. Personally I’ve always felt that one of the best things that feminism does for women, is that it helps us overcome this mindset whereby we’re always somehow in competition with each other.

  17. Oh, Beppie, so glad to hear you found a place: was it one of the ones you felt good about??

  18. I went to a hen’s night this weekend, extremely reluctantly – the bride is a good friend of mine, and we discovered feminism together, but I didn’t know any of her other friends. I was dreading a night of being stuck in gendered norms and talking about nail polish and wedding dresses, but I had a good time and met some wonderful women. There was consensus on my end of the table that changing ones’ name upon marriage was a ridiculous concept and none of them would do it, and another, on hearing of an incident of sexual harassment condoned by one of the others’ workplaces, said she would write an article about it for the newspaper she works for. And I felt like maybe I was still overcoming my patriarchy poisoning, since I had such an aversion to the idea of a night out with a group of unknown women.
    So, I think I’m agreeing with you, Beppie. And I feel for you, Renee.

  19. Ah, the schoolyard mothers. Happy memories – not! Like Deborah I manage to sniff out a couple of subversive like-minded women, and we became really close friends. Funny thing was, I discovered later that many of the other mothers were quite scared of us – because we didn’t put up with the shit, I suppose, so they didn’t know what we might be capable of. And we read Feminist Books (Mary Daly was a great favorite with us at that time) and argued with the staff and (horror!) the Parish Priest at parent-teacher evenings.
    M-H’s last blog post..The end of science research as we know it?

  20. WP — yes, we got one of the places we felt good about — our first preference, in fact! Luckily, it’s close enough to our current place that it shouldn’t take us too long to get settled in (and then I can get back to my thesis).

  21. So glad, Beppie!! I thought the first preference was gone? Or was this another first preference? 😉

  22. Yes, this was another first preference — we missed out on our first (and second) preference for the first round of applications we put in, but in the second round of applications we got approved for two different properties, one of which was our first preference for that particular round of applications. 🙂

  23. That’s great, Beppie. You’ll be live blogging the move? Via an Otterday thread, of course.
    Deborah’s last blog post..Spot the problem

  24. I’m glad, Beppie, that it’s kinda working out. Hope it’s helping to ease the thesis stress. Do you move this weekend? (Seekrit question: Are you missing my event? ;-)) I will send you vibes o’ goodness, for moving is of the suckest circle of hell.

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