First, a little background. I do not wear makeup, I rarely wear dresses I think I only own one apart from my wedding dress which is floating around somewhere. My clothing of choice is tracksuit pants or comfy jeans. While I don’t eschew pink, I don’t wear much of it preferring instead dark plain colours. I don’t have a wardrobe full of shoes, in fact today because I hurt my foot on the weekend, I’m wearing black socks and red Rivers men’s sandals. I am the epitome of fashion, not. I do dye my hair to cover greys and wax my eyebrows, but I have been known to forget to do either for several weeks because although I put on moisturiser each morning, I don’t actually look that closely in the mirror. So that’s me and my fashion sense in a nutshell.
I have a three year old daughter. She loves pink, she loves dresses, she loves shoes. I have no problem with this. I think she is adorable and very much her own bossy little person. I do have a problem with her only saying that she is beautiful when she is wearing a dress or a particular t-shirt with a little frill on the bottom. I do have a problem with her saying that she doesn’t want to eat from the blue “boys” bowl, she wants the pink “girls” bowl. This isn’t coming from me. It’s not coming from her Dad or her big brother. I don’t think it’s necessarily coming from daycare, at least not directly because they are pretty progressive.
More importantly how do I stop it? How do I tell her that she is beautiful whatever she is wearing, or running around in the narky-noo? How do I tell her that colours are for everyone?