Am I stretching a point weirdly when thinking about applying some of the principles of radical disability acceptance outside of its remit? I’m talking about my kid and (relatively) minor illnesses and injuries.
This afternoon he took a pretty awful stack on the bitumen, with two well-scraped knees and one knee with a mild to moderate amount of soft tissue bruising and swelling. This did buy him his first trip as a scooter passenger, but he didn’t enjoy it much because of the pain he was in.
At bedtime he was still hobbling, and was asking for a day off tomorrow. I’m inclined to say ‘yes’, even though he could probably technically manage a (calm) day at school. Firstly, there’s really no such thing as a calm day at school for him – he’s constantly knocking into things and banging about. Secondly, if he says it hurts and he wants to rest for a day, should I not accept his account of events, privilege that over my observations, and embrace his request for rest? He has a full range of motion, albeit painful where it stretches the abrasion, and no alarm signs for fracture or major joint injury, though I’ll check all this again tomorrow.
Same argument for mental health days? He hasn’t asked for one yet, but when he does – I’m inclined to overrule myself and let him have one.
He’s not a systematic school refuser at all. Only hasn’t gone when he’s had a nasty URTI, and on those occasions has usually complained that he’s missing some particular craft (etc) activity. He had 3 absent days last semester, all contiguous, with a nasty URTI just as swine flu panic was hitting.
What do you think? What do you do?