Just saw this post about rape linked to over at Shapely Prose, and I’m jumping on the bandwagon of making sure that everybody goes to read her perfect illustration of how everything women are trained to do in every-day interactions in order to not be ostracised as a castrating bitch is used against us by rapists and then used against us again by people who ask why women don’t fight back against a rapist:
For anybody who has ever watched the gendered social interactions of women — watched a woman get browbeaten into accepting attention she doesn’t want, watched a woman get interrupted while speaking, watched a woman deny she is upset at being insulted in public, watched a woman get grabbed because of what she was wearing, watched a woman stop arguing — and said and done nothing, you never have the right to ever ask, “Why didn’t she fight back?”
She didn’t fight back because you told her not to. Ever. Ever. You told her that was okay, and necessary, and right.
You didn’t give her a caveat. You didn’t say, “Unless…” You said, “Good for you, shutting up and backing down 99% of the time. Too bad that 1% of the time makes you a fucking whore who deserved it.”
Nobody obtains the superpower to behave dramatically differently during a frightening confrontation. Women will behave the same way they have been taught to behave in all social, professional, and sexual interactions. And they will be pretty goddamned surprised to come out the other end and find out that means they can legally be raped at any time, by just about anybody.
I am also, naturally, adding Fugitivus to my feed-reader. Read the whole thing.
Categories: gender & feminism