Otterday! And Open Thread.

Today’s Otterday chat thread is hosted by an otter from The Daily Squee.

river otter that looks like it's praying to the heavens

Please feel free to use this thread to natter about anything your heart desires. Is there anything great happening in your life? Anything you want to get off your chest? Reading a good book (or a bad one)? Anything in the news that you’d like to discuss? What have you created lately? Commiserations, felicitations, temptations, contemplations, speculations?

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  1. That is squee-licious.
    From the shaved patch on his/her neck, I’d say s/he’s just received some kind of veterinary attention and is giving thanks to Ceiling Cat for getting out of that terrible place.
    Ceiling cat is not smiling on me today as I’m off to work. Boo. Hiss.

  2. Popped up in my RSS feed:
    Talking about the “special” role of motherhood and mother/daughter, and how this seems to be very one sided. ” And suddenly, that sounded lined up with patriarchy in strong ways: women’s limited authority comes in having power over children, and lasting power over daughters, and so the patriarchy will support their exercise of that limited authority. And if we romanticize that power relationship, then it can be enjoyed, at least by one, and the other voice can be silenced. And it can’t easily be questioned or critiqued.”
    I’m good friends with my mother, it’s not a power relationship and I don’t really remember it as being one. But I do have friends who definitely had that dynamic.
    It’s probable that not having my father around for my teenage years had something to do with it, she chose trust rather than control probably because as a full time worker control wasn’t going to cut it! (And also because I was the right temperament for that, not all children are.)
    I did get a strong “yeah” from the post.

  3. Happy May Day to you all. Is anybody doing any celebration of the achievements of organised labour?

    I wish we had it as a public holiday here instead of ANZAC Day.

  4. Oh dear…I’ve just finished reading (and blog-ranting) about the case in which a man was acquitted of rape because the victim was wearing skinny jeans. A Sydney case. I would like to go deep into a denial vacation please? Where the world was lovely and just and kind and courts protected everyone equally. Anyone care to join me on this vacation? There will be hammocks under palm trees, and drinks with umbrellas (made in ways that didn’t harm the earth)…

    • FP, Casey posted a link to that at LP too – here’s the SMH story.
      I just can’t fathom the jury’s thinking – that a large man couldn’t possibly overpower a 42kg woman to the point where he could pull off her jeans? Or even if she did pull them off herself, that he may well have threatened her with his fists until she did?
      Do they really just not believe that a man could credibly be that scary?

  5. Yeah, it’s flat out astonishing. I’m so disappointed in this.
    .-= fuckpoliteness´s last blog ..What. The. HELL? =-.

  6. I was stunned by that too, FP, and I had a little rant about it, ‘though it’s not in your league: You can’t be raped if you’re wearing skinny jeans.
    Also, the Down Under Feminists Carnival is coming up, so it’s time to get your posts in.
    .-= Deborah´s last blog ..May Day, and DUFC coming up =-.

  7. I had a lot of fun making those economists run about, Helen.

  8. Zebee, that is a GREAT post. Very mind-nommy. Thanks for the link.

  9. Fp – I would very much like to join you on that denial vacation, please. There was a recent rape case in the UK where the defendant said that the victim did not say anything, and he was found not guilty. After admitting she didn’t consent.
    .-= Kirstente´s last blog ..Women win millions in equal pay decision. =-.

  10. I’m interested to know where you think migraines fit into your spectrum of able-bodied and disabled people. (Sorry if this is the wrong place to ask this question)
    Most of the time, I can live my life perfectly normally. But if I do get a migraine, I can’t work and I can’t involve myself in normal day to day activities. The pain is terrible, and generally it comes on quickly. I generally have no idea what has triggered it. I’m nauseous, and I throw up. I have to take (strong) painkillers, or a particular migraine medication, and try to sleep in a dark, quiet, cool room. The migraine medication can affect me just as badly as the migraine itself, so I try to be judicious in using it. There are medications you can take every day to prevent them, but they were not effective and gave me terrible, realistic nightmares. Migraines also affect other medications – for example, synthetic oestrogen can increase the risk of stroke in people with migraine. It wasn’t so bad when I lived on campus, but now I have to pay attention to the warning signs that I get this year, because there is no way I can drive home with a migraine. (Sorry this has gone on a bit – I just wanted to explain it fully).
    I’m not trying to say that this is the same as chronic fatigue, chronic pain or other full-time disabilities. But where do you think it fits? If I tell people I get migraines, I get stories about headaches and what medicine they use – it’s not the same. I tend not to tell people any more.

    • Clare, there are certainly plenty of migraine sufferers who identify as disabled. As an invisible disability, the challenges around having it taken seriously by Currently Non Disabled (CND) folks are common to many other sufferers of chronic pain disorders especially – you’re not limping or scarred, why should you be in pain? Intermittent invisible disabilities (migraines, PTSD, MS) can be the hardest to explain – you’re okay sometimes, why can’t you be like that all the time?
      FWD/Forward, the disabled feminists blog, has a LOT of stuff about invisible disabilities, both intermittent and chronic (and many people live with multiple overlapping chronic and intermittent conditions). A blogger who has chronic back pain and also migraines that are triggered by fluorescent lighting (and employers who insist on everybody using fluorescent lighting) recently wrote this for BADD’10: I can’t count on anybody to understand. (Blogging Against Disablism Day 2010) – from the sound of your symptoms I’m sure you will relate to much of it.

  11. After a Sydney jury late last year acquitted a man accused of rape who said himself on the witness stand that he had held the woman down while she struggled and tried to kick him away, I am now convinced that the Sydney courts have made it their mission to make sure that no rape results in a conviction anymore. They are sending us a loudspeaker message that rape is tacitly legal now.

  12. Orlando, while I frequently feel angry and WTF about the lack of rape convictions in courts generally, juries are 12 people from the community, so “Sydney courts have made it their mission to make sure that no rape results in a conviction anymore.”…
    It’s the jury that convicts or not. Blame the patriarchy, and the patriarchal legal system, for sure, but the juries who convict or not can not possibly have a unified “mission” – each one is a separate lot of 12 citizens. It’s just, you know, they live in patriarchy, where rape is generally women’s fault.

  13. Rebekka, while the jury makes the decision, and will inevitably reflect the widespread acceptance of rape myths in our messed up society, it is vital not to underestimate the role played by the judge, and to some degree the procecuting councel. The judge instructs the jury, walks through issues of law for the laypeople, has all sorts of rights to request material and clarifications, and to pose questions to witnesses. These juries are returning verdicts that strongly suggest they have not been properly instructed, and I have to wonder if the prosecuter is asleep at the wheel, too.

  14. My Google alert on “feminist” is full of links to blogs celebrating the 2nd National Offend A Feminist Week (a US-centric event).
    Heh. Get your bingo cards out.

  15. Why would those people wanting to take part in that event need a particular WEEK? Surely this is just a ‘happy’ part of every day existence for them?

  16. Thinking about Catherine Deveny getting sacked by the Age because her Logies tweets ‘did not meet the standards of the Age’. There’s no way I’d have made that joke about Bindi Irwin, and the Rove comment also made me blanch. I think the joke about Irwin was particularly ‘off’, so I’m in no way trying to open up a dialogue on whether it was an acceptable joke to make. I think it’s pretty foul, and if she was trying to make a point she seems to have failed. But to look at it purely in terms of The Age and their ‘standards’…if I had the time and energy I’d trawl back through the last 12 months of their publications for their ‘standards’ in what they’ll print and the behaviour of their columnists…just wondering if an open thread on the standards of the Age and when and how they choose to act on someone falling below those standards might be in order?

  17. Brickbats and bouquets here:
    ’Nightmare’ at petrol station for amputee
    A man using a wheelchair was told by petrol station attendants that he had to pump his petrol himself, and then told that he couldn’t use his wheelchair on the forecourt.
    Mr Portland said a Waikato Hospital surgeon saw the forecourt exchange and came to his assistance.
    He filled the rental car with petrol, then took Mr Portland’s credit card inside and paid. “He was seething – he couldn’t believe it,” Mr Portland said of the surgeon.

    Mr Portland subsequently received “brilliant service” at other service stations.
    But check out what the company’s spokeswoman said for a serving of teh patronising.
    BP spokeswoman Diana Stretch said company-owned stores had a “help serve” policy and wheelchair access signs were posted above lanes where extra help might be required.
    “All the customer needs to do is give us a wave or a toot and we will come out to assist them.

    Shorter version: It was all the fault of the person with disabilities all along.

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