Friday Hoyden: Sady Doyle

Sady Doyle from the fantastic Tiger Beatdown blog gave Hoyden About Town a shout-out in a piece she wrote for In These TimesBlogging Sisterhood: How feminist blogs saved my life. So here’s a shout-out back, to one of my favourite writers!

Feminist blogs saved my life. They gave me a community when I felt alone. They gave me hope, provided me with a free education and raised my expectations for myself. They helped me overcome a writer’s block that had lasted since college. They radically changed my conception of writing.
Several of the books I read were by people who ran blogs; I started reading them. I read Feministing. I also read Jezebel, Feministe, Shakesville, Womanist Musings, I Blame The Patriarchy, Racialicious, Feminists With Disabilities, Hoyden About Town and (sooner or later) several dozen Tumblrs. Their writing felt vital and rare.

These blogs woke me up politically. I suddenly saw more than just dating problems and wardrobe issues: I saw double standards, beauty standards, sexual policing, gender roles. And I began to understand, too, how small those concerns were, and how my obsessive focus on them was intrinsically tied to my privilege. The blogs transformed me from an anxiously navel-gazing private person into a… well, into an anxiously navel-gazing political person. But a political person!

Blogging has definitely made me a more political person, and reading other people’s blogs is by far the most important way I jiggle my brain cells around political ideas. I’m so chuffed that our blog has been a small part of the political awakening of such an interesting writer (I’m always happy to see a new post from Sady in my RSS reader) and glad to be part of a subculture whose awkward questions of and challenges to the received wisdom about social expectations and hierarchies actually changes the way that some of our readers engage with the world.

Please share your favourite Sady Doyle post (or Twitter explosion) from the last few years in comments. I also have a request: if you’re a regular reader and you’ve got something burning to say about “double standards, beauty standards, sexual policing, gender roles” etc, please do consider submitting it to us as a guest post (via email). Cross-posts from your own blogs are very welcome. We’d love to hear from and encourage more new voices to broaden our horizons and enrich our introspections.

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10 replies

  1. I love this line in Sady Doyle’s piece, in talking about the feminist blogs she loves, including HaT, of course!

    Their writing felt vital and rare.


  2. I think I know what she means…
    I happen to be reading a book of essays at the moment (Simon Leys “The Hall of Uselessness”). I don’t think I’ve read anything extended from the straight white male academic perspective since I got into feminist blogs, and it’s shocking (to me anyway) how boring and unchallenging I’m finding SL. And there’s the game of Fun! Feminist! Bogglement! which I might write up in more detail sometime.

  3. This was a great reminder that I don’t have to desire and spend romantic and/or sexual-type time with anyone and everyone who wants me in that way. Even though I am a woman and whatnot, I still don’t have to reciprocate attraction! And I can dislike things that other nerds* like!
    *I’m defining myself here, not Sady.

  4. Sorry, all. I meant ”“Elitism:” Now, It Basically Just Means “Not Having Sex With Everybody””. For some reason, I get the lost otter signal when I try to post the link.

  5. I miss Sady on Tiger Beatdown. She has put together an excellent group of writers there, but it’s just not the same as when I could count on my rant fix.
    I think the post that brought me to her blog was this one on the ”Because, Um… Girl”, when I was trying to negotiate the sort of thing she describes with some dude friends of my own.
    That was quite early on, and then she got really high-profile, allowing me to feel smug about being ahead of the pack for once.

  6. I was just thinking of this one the other day: Hektor, an adorable puppy, explains to a deleted commenter why he got deleted.
    My favorite lines are all about the puppy (“What is that, opposite stairs?”) but the conceit–that a dog who is fairly new to the world and fairly stupid about many things can still figure out the basic logical holes in Deleted Comment, because its argument is even stupider and more unsophisticated than a dog–cracked me up and remains with me still.

  7. I love all Sady’s posts, and second the missing her on TBD. Yes, the others are great, but Sady made me LAUGH. A LOT.
    I have a total love-hate relationship with Ayn Rand, yes her philosophy was vile, but I do love her fiction. And Sady made me laugh my butt off with this one.

  8. Running Toward the Gunshots: A Few Words About Joan of Arc is one of my favorites. As is her post from day 4 of #MooreAndMe. The epic smackdown of Freddie, and the “I’m Sady Fucking Doyle” post that followed it, were also pretty awesome.

  9. Thanks tigtog! Sorry about that.

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