most people can tell by looking at a cat that it doesn’t want their attention; the only thing that makes it hard to figure out whether a woman want[s] to be talking to a man is literally not even trying to.
That’s just one tiny snippet from a wonderful link-dump on why calling some men “creepy” is necessary.
An important point made is that there are many problems with a common assumption by those aggrieved by hearing the word “creep” assigned to someone they like/respect/admire: the assumption that
the only legitimately creepy men are the archetypical trenchcoat flashers and obvious rapists who are liable for immediate arrest, and that any behaviour less blatant than these actual assaults simply should not be described as creepy. Just about everybody I ever know who has called somebody else a creep would disagree strongly with that definition they want to restrict us to.
So, should you care to, please provide examples in the comments below of creepy as hell fictional characters whom are generally deemed to be handsome, suave, charming etc by the people they aren’t (at least so far) attempting to manipulate/exploit/con, with a short explication of their particular creeper-style.
e.g. I find Tony DiNozzo on NCIS to be verrrry creepy. He’s constantly boundary-testing and making sexual allusions in a way that would get him canned under any halfway rigorous federal sexual harassment policy, yet he’s constantly given the boys will be boys pass by everybody on the team even though they grumble about his gauchery. The writers obviously intend for him to be a likeable harmless buffoon interspersed with his hot sexy heroics, the audience is meant to be on his side and in every episode he says/does something creepy which leads to no consequences harsher than rolling of eyes, a witty putdown and maybe a single cuff on the head from his boss. Then DiNozzo’s back to being everybody’s favourite rascal, and this dynamic plays out in almost every episode of this long-running primetime hit show. The actor obviously understands this about the DiNozzo character very well, as exemplified by his body language in this PR shot.
Ugh. Over to you.