A few days ago I was having a conversation with one of my noob-to-feminism friends about feminism and intersectionality. At one point in the conversation he said something that was pretty much the equivalent of, “In my experience [as an upper-middle-class, white, cisgendered, able-bodied, heterosexual male], people just need to pull themselves up by their bootstraps if they really want to succeed in life.” and invoked prominent men of colour and women to emphasize his point.
It’s been bothering me ever since.
So, how do I even begin to try to counter that assertion (beyond shouting, “emWHAT!?/em” in his face, which was what I really wanted to do)? Is it even worth it to try? Are there any FAQ-type pages I could point him to? I looked through the Feminism 101 blog but couldn’t find anything that was really relevant.
Over to you, Hoydenizens…