A 7 year old African girl is at the centre of a custody dispute between her single mother and a wealthy white Australian couple who have helped with her care since she was a baby. The full story is here and here. (Well as full as you get in the MSM).
Obviously the couple are very attached to the child and only want the best for her. Just as obvious is the fact that her mother only wants the best for her as well.
It would seem that a simple cultural misunderstanding is at the bottom of this. In Africa it is normal for child care to be shared so the mother had no problem when the white couple offered free baby sitting while she worked. The white couple, on the other hand, believed that the mother had given them custody of the child. When the child started school the couple offered to pay for an expensive education. Her mother, believing she would be a fool to look a gifthorse in the mouth, accepted gratefully. Who wouldn’t, we all want the best for our children. Except now, the child doesn’t want to be with her mother she wants to be with the white couple who can offer her so much, compared to her single mother who still works six days a week. The couple want custody of the child with visitation rights for the mother.
My thoughts are – yes you can offer her so much but just because you can, should you? Is this what is best for the child?