I’m considering whether to make a new rule for moderation: any comment that says “Real [FOO] do/don’t [BAR]” just doesn’t get approved.
Or at least not without extremely close scrutiny of the poking it to see what pops out and holding it up to the light to see what bounces off it from different angles variety, since I guess I can imagine perhaps maybe approving something along the lines of “Real Dementors don’t dance” etc. when it’s discussing fictional characters who embody a well delineated archetype. Something like “Real Lawyers Do Change Their Briefs” or “Real Heroes Don’t Wear Capes” etc might get a run, on a good day. Otherwise? Not so much.
As the post title says – there’s enough fucking normativity-policing in the world already, thanks. I don’t have to let it get published here. Telling people that they are Doin’ It Rong because they are doing it differently than people do it on the telly, or in books, or (Blob forbid) differently than you did it? Who made you the This Is How It Is police?
There is no One True Way that everybody responds to the same stimulus, because there are always different circumstances surrounding what might look like the same stimulus, and a lot of those circumstances are going to be a person’s internalised beliefs about how the world works for them, built up over years of that person’s life, that you know 1% of a nanoparticle of fuck-nothing about, and even if you did still wouldn’t guarantee that they would react the exact same way as somebody else with a similar background.
This rant has been brought to you by people who should know better engaging in second-guessing rape complainants, because apparently they know just how every rape victim ever “should” react/behave following a sexual assault.
But that’s not the only post today where somebody’s made a Real [Foo] don’t [Bar] statement. It’s always out of order, and when I see it I won’t allow those comments to stand on my blog. That is all.