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Lauredhel is an Australian woman and mother with a disability. She blogs about disability and accessibility, social and reproductive justice, gender, freedom from violence, the uses and misuses of language, medical science, otters, gardening, and cooking.

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  1. tigtog
    tigtog at |

    Strange. I read the post when it first went up and only had a few comments. Ristik hadn’t made an appearance by that time.

    I obviously need to add a few more FWW/FAQs to the collation over at Feminism 101.

  2. Pandagon
    Pandagon at |

    The Stick Rule spelled out in bingo cards…

    Man, I both hate and love it when someone comes up with something I wish I had come up with myself. Lauredhel at Hoyden About Town has put together an anti-feminist bingo card,…

  3. Feminist Law Professors » Blog Archive » Antifeminist Bingo

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  4. Loober
    Loober at |

    I think you forgot –

    “Get back to the kitchen you silly bint”.

    Oh and by the way – back to the kitchen – you silly bint.

  5. QueenMab
    QueenMab at |

    How about “Some feminists somewhere, once upon a time, hurt my feelings, and that’s more important than anything else.”

    My favorite.

  6. tigtog
    tigtog at |

    He really just doesn’t get that treating each other as individual people with deeply personal emotions and motivations MAKES SEX BETTER ie more fun because you know and LIKE each other, not just have the hots for each other.

    Yes, it cuts down on the likelihood of one night stands when people decide that they prefer to take time to get to know each other. However, it makes for a sharp rise in the number of happy repeating fuckbuddies and (gasp!) lasting pairings.

  7. tigtog
    tigtog at |

    Well yes, there’s that too. I didn’t mean to imply that there’s anything intrinsically wrong with having a one night stand with someone you find sexy and likeable, just that most people in the long run are looking for slightly deeper/longer (jrh) relationships.

  8. The Infidel Sage
    The Infidel Sage at |

    I think it is painfully obvious that Feminists seek the emasculation of men. I’ve been reading feminist blogs for sometime and they are basically male bashing to one degree or another. Men are assholes, they talk to me in stores, they dare to have an opinion on sex, on promiscuity etc., they dare to think they should have a voice on the topic of abortion and the whining goes on and on. Perpetual outrage and antagonism will not deliver victory in the end.

  9. Grace
    Grace at |

    Wait? What’s wrong with calling myself an equalist? I consider myself an equalist because I also am against cases of discrimination against men as well as discrimination against women. Then again, I don’t think feminists have anything “wrong” I think they have pretty much everything “right” I just personally prefer the term equalist as it is more inkeeping with my end goals (equality).

  10. Grace
    Grace at |

    Which is what the vast majority of feminists believe in too. I just I think the term is more accurate, not the ideology (which I think is spot-on).

  11. tigtog
    tigtog at |

    Grace, I don’t there’s anything wrong with being/calling oneself an equalist generally.

    But why the perception (not necessarily yours) that feminists aren’t already equalists? They’re not feminists instead of being equalists, they’re feminists because they are equalists.

    It’s not an either/or thing.

  12. tigtog
    tigtog at |

    PS. I mean, Feminism is to Equalism as Protestant is to Christianity. Both/And. Distinct goals/culture/mission within a broader shared worldview.

  13. Grace
    Grace at |

    Ah I get you, the people who bash feminists and call themselves equalists haven’t really gotten the ‘equal’ part of equalist. I agree with that!

  14. Girls Read Comics (And They're Pissed)

    For Those Playing Along At Home…

    Following Lauredhel at Hoyden About Town, Betty and I felt it necessary to create Anti-Comics-Feminist Bingo.

    Clearly, some things are just Meant To Be….

  15. Mindy
    Mindy at |

    I think it is painfully obvious that the patriarchy seek the subjugation of women. I’ve been reading patriarchal blogs for sometime and they are basically female bashing to one degree or another. Women are bitches, they talk to me in stores, they dare to have an opinion on sex, on promiscuity etc., they dare to think they should have a voice on the topic of abortion and the whining goes on and on. Perpetual outrage and antagonism will not deliver victory in the end.

    Sorry, couldn’t resist.

  16. My Love Letter to Dude Nation: How Not to be an Asshole « Hedonistic Pleasureseeker

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  17. Pony
    Pony at |

    I loved this. But I didn’t like clicking on your link and unwillingly being taken to a pornography pimp’s blog.

    Alas has been pimping out his blog for some time now. Faced with mounting bills, Barry Deutsch did what pimps the world over do, he decided the best way to manage his financial crisis was to profit off the sale of women’s bodies; teens, black, Latina, Asian, native. Alas got them all for YOU!

    Alas, a blog runs on WordPress blogging and **review software.**

    Click “review software” on the bottom right of Alas opening page and arrive here:

    (edited to redact name, because I found googlehits to this page from searches on the name – tigtog)

  18. tigtog
    tigtog at |


    that decision of Amp’s is why Alas is no longer on the blogroll here at Hoyden. (there is a link for a blog called Ampersand Duck which is totally unrelated and highly recommended).

    I do understand your concerns about how Amp pays the hosting bills for Alas, through allowing a pornographer to hitch a ride on his site-rankings, I really do.

    Despite a decision which I hated, Alas still has some pretty amazing contributors and posts on relevant feminist issues, which is why Alas is still in my feedreader and why I still click through on occasion. If there’s a really powerful post and comments, I do occasionally still link to Alas (last time was, I think, for his posts regarding Prison Rape).

    That certainly is less than a perfectly purist position on porn-enabling, I know – but I’m one of those feminists who has sympathies with aspects of both sides of the anti-porn/sex-positive debate. I’m deeply cynical regarding the porn industry, and I refer to myself as sexually liberated rather than sex-positive because I can’t stand the term, but I’m not an anti-porn activist.

    Lauredhel makes her own decisions on who to link to, but that’s a simple picture of my position.

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  20. Feminists at Brandeis
    Feminists at Brandeis at |

    Recommended reading…

    On a related note, what better game to play than Anti-Feminist Bingo, created by Lauredhel at Hoyden About Town?…

  21. Bingo! // yeahpope
    Bingo! // yeahpope at |

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  22. Pony
    Pony at |

    Thanks for responding Tigtog.

    I would have preferred some indication that I would be linking there. I won’t visit his site. Every hit contributes to his ability to pimp out women’s bodies, makes his site worthwhile to B4ng Br0s. (edited to redact name, because I found googlehits to this page from searches on the name – tigtog)

    What if he was linking his blog to a racist server?

  23. Anonymous
    Anonymous at |

    Ah screw it.

    Why the hell should I care about other peoples feelings, when it serves me no purpose?

    A males prerogative is to mate.
    That’s why after sex, we’ll usually fall asleep.
    There is no reason why a man should get defensive because a female group works against them.
    At least, not until they start chemical castrations…

  24. tigtog
    tigtog at |

    Pony, the post has been updated now and a disclaimer added, and yes, that should have happened from the first.

    What if he was linking his blog to a racist server?

    That’s a very good question to which I don’t have any good answer.

    In some ways, a racist hate site, while repulsive, would not be aiming to simply make a commercial profit from women’s pain, so taking their dime to write anti-racist stuff could be partly justified as subversively satisfying: they’re just (I know, just!) talking up hate, not making money from exploitation and suffering day in and day out.

    That’s obviously not something one can claim about taking the porn merchants’ dime.

    Anti-porn is not my primary feminist focus, but I only have that luxury because of the work of radfems like you putting in those hard yards. I’m grateful for the reminders when I misstep and overlook porn issues. And porn is so easy to overlook in the Not My Nigel situation – I like what Amp and his cobloggers write, so I give him a break I wouldn’t give to someone else. You’re right to point that out.

    I know that I would be more immediately rejecting of racism, largely because I have the luxury of externalising it more – I don’t live with its consequences in the same way that I live a life permeated by sexist oppressions. That familiarity leads me to second-guess myself on sexism more than racism when it comes to pointing fingers, so that in some circumstances I’m more willing to call racist shit out than call sexist shit out (a fairly typical white privilege stance, as we all saw with the Don Imus fallout).

    This has been an interesting exercise in self-examination. I really mean that. Thank you.

    P.S. Are you willing to link to some of what you consider the best antiporn manifesto writing of the last few years for the Feminism 101 FAQ on fighting feminists? I’m not familiar enough with the most persuasive pieces, but I’d really like to add links to them.

  25. Sinister girl
    Sinister girl at |

    Anti-feminist bingo…

    read the entire post where further hilarity ensues!…

  26. Pony
    Pony at |

    Oh what a good idea. I can think of several and I could ask a couple of experts for their suggestions. I’m not sure what you mean by link, though, and how many would be about right?

    I don’t have a blog.

  27. tigtog
    tigtog at |

    Pony, just follow the link to the FAQ in my previous comment and leave the URLs of posts in comments to the FAQ post. That would be great.

    The idea of the Feminism 101 blog is to be a linkfarm of the best posts on feminist issues organised around FAQs and with readers supplying more links in comments.

  28. Feministe » Bingo!
    Feministe » Bingo! at |

    […] now, Lauredhel at Hoyden About Town has beat me to the punch and made up Antifeminist Bingo […]

  29. arielladrake
    arielladrake at |

    Re: the Alas linking thing, one way to get around the link/hits thing is to format the link as (a href=”URL” rel=”nofollow”). As far as I’m aware, this will let you link to Alas without actually supporting the metrics that allow hits to Amp’s blog support the other stuff on the site.

  30. rainne
    rainne at |

    This may be too obscure to be included, but one of the (younger) women at work yesterday, upon hearing that I was a feminist, told me “I hate those feminists who insist on like equal rights and everything but then still want men to open doors for them”.

    To which my reply was “And when I meet one of those I’ll pass on your discontent”, but I thought it worth sharing.

    Also, hi, I just discovered you (via Pandagon). Whee! Australians!

  31. tigtog
    tigtog at |

    “L’esprit d’escalier” – which I note scans perfectly (and offspring-startlingly) to Donna e mobile, perhaps the most misogynistic operatic aria.

    Wit of the staircase – you don’t figure out the perfect response until you’re separated by a flight of stairs.

  32. Medbh
    Medbh at |

    Oh, Lauredhel, this is fabulous. I’m linking to it right now.
    Mindy, your comment was delightful.

  33. hedonistic
    hedonistic at |

    Hey, we just got a “teh feminists are oppressing me!” from an MRA that’s infested IBTP. We’re trying to ignore him but it’s just . . . so . . . HARD.

  34. Pony
    Pony at |

    It’s a question of not support Barry Deutsch, who is a pimp. There are euphemisms one could use, but I calls it as I sees it.

    Barry was ABLE to sell his blog because because of all the smart feminist writers there, and the readers and posters those women attract. See? Feminist working to support porn.

    It’s not just a question of the hits. It’s an ethical question too; pornography is rape on film.

  35. E the Wise
    E the Wise at |

    Isn’t it fun to pretend? Emmeline Pankhurst fought tirelessly for, was beaten for, and went to jail for the right to be heard. You play bingo. Cute.
    I know, I know, lets see the board. . . 5 in a row. . . blah blah blah!

  36. Mindy
    Mindy at |

    Emmeline Pankhurst didn’t have the internet. I bet she would have used it if she had. Don’t think we are pretending either. We are serious, we just don’t take ourselves too seriously all the time.

  37. tigtog
    tigtog at |

    E the Wise, cob logger to Infidel Sage, just wants an argument.

    Why not try a serious debate, mate?

  38. Nathanael Nerode
    Nathanael Nerode at |

    “There are several boxes that, in certain situations and without any other additions from our lovely board, would not immediately indicate an anti-feminist is present.”

    I think the reason that one was picked out is that it’s one of only two, if I’m correct, which can appear in the context of *discussing feminism*, written by a feminist, and not be even slightly rude.

    The other I spotted was “Women just can’t be objective about gender issues,” which in the right context means something akin to “The personal is political”.

    Interesting Bingo chart: there’s only one way to get Bingo without getting at least one really grossly anti-feminist comment. Everything on row two is pretty horrible. Row four column four and row five column one are too. And row one column two is a dead giveaway.

    This means the only way to get Bingoed without saying at least one grossly-offensive-by-itself-in-any-context thing is to say everything on row three, which certainly adds up pretty awful (since the only OK contexts for the five items are completely different and non-overlapping).

    As for Alas, A Blog:
    It’s not just helping porn sites: it’s helping violent and explicitly misogynistic porn sites. And he didn’t admit it upfront: he hid it. Plus which the entire “search engine optimizer” scheme is illegitimate, as he should have known. Even pro-porn feminists can be quite legitimately grossly, grossly offended by that action.

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  41. Lynn Kendall
    Lynn Kendall at |

    Would it be permissible to make an animated icon of this fabulous bingo card? Full credit would be given.

  42. SplendidOne
    SplendidOne at |

    False premise: Not all feminists are women. I’ve been a feminist since the late 1970s and I’m as manly a man as you’d want a guy to be. Your bingo wouldn’t work for me.

    BTW, nice guys do get the girls, BTW, lots of them. :)

  43. tigtog
    tigtog at |

    SplendidOne, surely feminist men have the experience of having these stereotypes of women thrown around whenever an issue of sexual equality comes up? You can use it then.

    As for nice guys getting the girls plenty, we know that, unfortunately it’s the guys who think that simply not-raping and not-bashing women makes them “nice” that are the whiners.

  44. Lauredhel
    Lauredhel at |

    Lynn Kendall:

    Would it be permissible to make an animated icon of this fabulous bingo card? Full credit would be given.

    Absolutely – consider it Creative Commonsed. Non-commercial modifications are welcome, so long as good faith feminism is involved.

    I’ve been compiling a whole lot of other possible squares, and have been hoping someone could whip up a script to generate random cards.

  45. Lauredhel
    Lauredhel at |

    Majikthise has a good synopsis of the NiceGuys(tm) phenomenon referred to on the card, here.

    Often, the self-proclaimed nice guy wants special credit for just for being nice. It’s as if he wants you to exclaim, “Oh, you poor fellow. What a burden it must be to treat women as you’d like to be treated. Above and beyond, old chap. Above and beyond!” I’m all for niceness, but I consider it a basic moral requirement for all humans, not a special bonus feature.
    At worst, self-proclamations of niceness come across as vaguely menacing. The logical inference is that the speaker doesn’t believe that women want to be treated well and that he might just drop the whole nice act.

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  48. Audrey
    Audrey at |

    Another Feministing reader here! I’m glad I stopped by — awesome post! The Anti-Feminist Bingo card will definitely come in handy! ;-D

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  50. Panic
    Panic at |

    Was linked here from a commenter at “I Blame the Patriarchy.” Fantastic post. I’ll be using this a lot!

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  53. Cathy
    Cathy at |

    Hi – also referred by IBTP. Loved your (and Mindy’s) responses to the Infantile Sage! Maybe we could start those chemical castrations as soon as they fall asleep.

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  58. that guy
    that guy at |

    fucking […] priceless. women […] marginalised. deep admiring respect for […] you people […] and […] Greer.

    [mod note: Heavily edited to remove abuse and general brainless misogynistic drivel. Thanks for dropping by! …lauredhel.]

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  63. Mary Tracy9
    Mary Tracy9 at |

    “You’ll never get laid with that attitude”

    That’s my favourite one! I bet is one of the biggest reasons why women escape from feminism as if from the plague.

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  65. thewell
    thewell at |

    the fat hate bingo had it so you could buy it as a shirt!

    I want an antifeminist bingo shirt

  66. Ryan Thompson
    Ryan Thompson at |

    That familiarity leads me to second-guess myself on sexism more than racism when it comes to pointing fingers, so that in some circumstances I’m more willing to call racist shit out than call sexist shit out (a fairly typical white privilege stance, as we all saw with the Don Imus fallout).

    For what its worth, there’s a hair salon in downtown LA whos name was Oh My Nappy Hair. They specialize in black hair. A week after the Imus scandal broke, they changed their name to Nappy Headed Hos. So yeah, the community was really pissed about the Imus thing. Right. Reality: The enterprising women running the salon are laughing all the way to the bank.

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  68. Ryan Thompson
    Ryan Thompson at |

    Exactly ;D So yeah, the community was really pissed about the Imus thing. <– That was sarcasm ^_~

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  75. Juan
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    Just found this. Want to say ‘thank you.’

    Helpful in advising me to keep my damn mouth shut and investigate rather than becoming an asshat. And it also helps in pointing out what exactly is wrong with something when I’m too blind/privileged to see it at the moment.

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  83. Ettina
    Ettina at |

    Sexism does hurt men too. It’s not anti-feminist to say so (unless you’re only talking about the ‘feminism is the only important kind of discrimination’ subset of feminists).
    Patriarchy does not allow men to feel sad or scared.
    If they do feel sad or scared, they are not able to get support for it.
    Patriarchy doesn’t allow men to have genuine relationships with their children, especially infants.
    They are trained to be inept at childcare and uncertain around babies.
    Patriarchy equates almost all male expressions of physical affection with sex.
    Men are not allowed to be physically affectionate to other men, because that’s seen to indicate homosexuality. Even boys well before puberty get this.
    If men feel any kind of affection towards a non-relative woman, they are assumed to be sexually attracted to her. It’s not considered possible for men to simply be friends with women.
    Patriarchy trains men to equate sex, love and power. This results in some men, especially those who are already vulnerable to those attitudes, to become abusers.
    Abusive men are treated as ‘true men’, which harms the men who are not abusive.
    Women are also trained by the higher percentage of male abusers and the societal attitudes that create them to fear men, and assume that men, especially angry men, are potentially dangerous.
    Patriarchy trains men to do the initiating of sex, and women to respond.
    This harms men, and adolescent boys, who are too shy or anxious to initiate.
    This trains bolder men to be invasive, expecting that if they keep pressuring, the woman will agree to sex. It also leaves men likely to overlook or disregard signs that the woman is not consenting. Because women are often expected to put up ‘token’ resistence, real resistence may be mistaken for token resistence. Men are left uncertain or guilty about being too pushy.
    Patriarchy divides many activities into ‘male’ and ‘female’. This harms boys and men who would enjoy female activities, and/or do not enjoy male activities. For example, nurturing boys, unathletic boys, men who like children and men who are not very competitive are harmed by these divisions.
    Boys are expected to be, like girls, strongly bonded to their mother in early childhood, but unlike girls, a boy who is still strongly bonded to his mother in mid-late childhood is ridiculed.
    Male victims of abuse are treated as either complicit in the abuse (eg adolescent boy sexually abused by adult woman) or inferior and weak, to a much greater degree than female victims.
    These are many ways that traditional patriarchy hurts men and boys. To claim that patriarchy only hurts women and girls is a disservice to male victims of patriarchy and helps to rob women of allies in the fight against patriarchy.

  84. tigtog
    tigtog at |

    Everything you say about patriarchy above is true. Just remember that it’s bingo, Ettina. One square on its own doesn’t get anyone an anti-feminist prize. Quite a few of the squares on the board are capable of being argued from a good-faith position as well as from a point of pure antagonism (e.g. there’s nothing at all wrong with arguing for equalism except where the arguer assumes that feminists aren’t also equalists).

    It’s that square in conjunction with four more in a row that means one can be pretty sure that one has a real, live, antifeminist on one’s hands. The sort who just wants feminists to stop talking about something that hurts women and only talk about the things that hurt men.

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  86. Helly
    Helly at |

    @ Grace: Nothing is wrong with calling yourself an equalist, but if you say it like on the bingo card, it implies that feminism isn’t about equality of the sexes (you know, that annoying old chauvinist myth about how feminism is about women taking control of men or whatever). :)

  87. Comments on feminist Blogs | Loveletters
    Comments on feminist Blogs | Loveletters at |

    […] speaking. Most of the comments come from patriarchically inclined MRAs, who fit everything in the feminist Bingo-Card. This, as you probably know, nips all feminist discussion of feminist issues in the bud. The reason […]

  88. Being Amber Rhea » Blog Archive » BINGO!

    […] BINGO card has 25 squares (including on “free square” in the center that can be adapted creatively as necessary), so help me out with your suggestions for what it should include. […]

  89. Xtinian Thoughts » Blog Archive » B-I-N-G-Oh yeah.

    […] Anti-Feminist Bingo by […]

  90. ahh. « Volcanista: a magmalicious blog
    ahh. « Volcanista: a magmalicious blog at |

    […] admit that upon finding science blogs, was initially pretty taken aback by what sounded like basic Anti-Feminist Bingo comments on straightforward feminist posts. While many blog posts were addressing these […]

  91. Being Amber Rhea » Blog Archive » Top 10 blog topics of 2008

    […] – downplaying the significance, blaming the victim, saying “nuh-uh!” – all the usual Bingo squares. C’est la vie, right women […]

  92. Arguing « WhyI’mbitter’s Weblog
    Arguing « WhyI’mbitter’s Weblog at |

    […] are some definite good signs and what are some definite bad signs?  Anyone hitting a bingo on either card is out of the running immediately, for good reason.  Or is a better strategy to work on being […]

  93. International Women’s day: On being the Groke — Hoyden About Town

    […] In January I started posting at a larger group blog. In my first post, I introduced myself, and included a warning that I would sometimes be the Groke. Since then, I’ve only posted one item with a specifically feminist theme. Even in the more lefty-leaning sections of the Ozblogosphere, one can feel the earth chill as one glides out from the shrubbery to say that feminism isn’t over, everything is not fixed already. I’m not so much talking about the hateful pile-ons and other threats directed at women bloggers, but the constant trickle of let’s-be-reasonable, you’re looking to be offended, get a sense of humour, Dear God What about the Men? and all the other items on the antifeminist bingo square. […]

  94. Women in science and technology, Part 3 « Continental Shelf

    […] are so old, easily rebutted, and flimsy, and yet so frequently repeated, that we can even play the anti-feminist bingo (now in two different versions!) Next time someone answers “Women just can’t be […]

  95. Kripa
    Kripa at |

    Wait how is “Patriarchy hurts men too” anti-feminist? If anything, it’s yet another reason I call myself a feminist, and more of a reason for men to be feminists!

    [Asked and answered, Kripa – read the comments thread. ~L]

  96. ‘Feminazis’? Really? Do people still say that? « Skeptopia

    […] have jumped on his unenlightened bandwagon and engaged in a rather rousing session of Anti-feminist Bingo. (At least one poster has stepped in with a very reasoned feminist argument and has been pretty much […]

  97. So what could Seth McFarlane have sung about, and actually been funny? | A Bee of a Certain Age

    […] There’s a reason why “Can’t you take a joke?” is the centre block in anti-feminist bingo. -40.352306 175.608215 Share this:EmailDiggStumbleUponFacebookTwitterReddit Posted in: Feminism, […]

  98. Guest Post: We Need to Talk About This: Chikan | The Lobster Dance

    […] Potential commenters: Comments are moderated. Let me refer to you 1. Lewis’s Law and 2. Anti-feminist bingo. […]

  99. Anti-Pagan bingo | Works of Literata
    Anti-Pagan bingo | Works of Literata at |

    […] thanks to Grafton for help with the images. Hat tip to Anti-feminist bingo, which I used as a […]

  100. Reason #140 Why Sexist Bullshit in Academia is Not Okay |

    […] essentially to “Why can’t you ladies take a joke?” Center square on the bingo card, my friends. Center […]

  101. Jane
    Jane at |

    Can we get a “Not ALL men!!1″ in the next one please? Cause that’s one of my favorites.

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