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By Orlando on March 25, 2013
When people scoff at the message that we need to teach people not to rape they make the assumption that the lesson goes: “Rape is bad. Don’t do it.” That is not what the lesson looks like. The lesson, once it is adopted, will be that every single person out there, regardless of any defining personal characteristics, is a human being of value, and with a right to make their own decisions about what bodily contact to have with others.
By tigtog on June 20, 2012
Humans, even rapists, are complex entities. A rapist is capable of doing good things for some people, while doing grave harm to others. In Sandusky’s case, what appeared to be (and in some cases maybe actually was) good works was simultaneously the grooming of victims.
By tigtog on June 17, 2012
This particular nugget comes from Pharyngula, where a post from PZ addressing rape culture led to a predictable influx of the usual victim-blaming rape myths as if they were commensense truths, leading to a predictably forceful pushback from the Pharyngulites, who do not let that crap stand. If readers would like to add their own favourite links addressing rape myths/culture in comments, I’d really like to see them.
Posted in ethics & philosophy, gender & feminism, language, parenting, relationships, violence | Tagged abuse, nuggets of awesome, rape apologism, rape culture, rape myths, sexual assault | 10 Responses
By tigtog on June 4, 2012
…when they see skimpily covered attractive flesh? Then why do we never hear of summer sun-seekers being attacked by rapists in the middle of large sunlit crowds at public squares and parks and beaches? The skimpily covered attractive flesh is there in maximum abundance, but somehow the attacks just don’t happen when there are plenty of surrounding eyewitnesses and CC-TV?
By tigtog on November 4, 2011
There are ordinary guys and there are Slavering Beasts. And they are very, very easy to tell apart.
By tigtog on October 9, 2011
If you’re drunk and get raped, you’ve got no one to blame but yourself, says NSW Police Commissioner.
By tigtog on October 7, 2011
The sentiment that whatever we wear and wherever we go, yes means yes and no means no is what got me Slutwalking earlier this year. Those campaigning to “reclaim” the word “slut”? I didn’t totally hate the idea, but it wasn’t one that particularly inspired me, because I’m skeptical regarding reclamation of marginalising slurs in concept and feel it’s of limited utility compared to actively challenging prejudices more radically.
By blue milk on June 24, 2011
OK sure, believe that some women need to take responsibility for preventing their own rapes if you want to but keep four things in mind.
By Mindy on June 15, 2011
Why does the myth that a woman can consent to sex while asleep still persist? Why should it matter that the man rapist may not have been aware she was asleep. If she has pushed you away twice when she was awake, and she hasn’t clearly said “Yes, I want to have sex with you”, [...]
By tigtog on June 12, 2011
Does a single one of you have the guts to forego predictable titillation and let the public know the truth about Slutwalk and the hundreds and hundreds of other women and male and queer allies who will be marching in non-skimpy wear, and why they are there? Or will it just be more sad head-shaking misrepresentation from your pundits?
By blue milk on May 28, 2011
Image credit here. In honour of the Slut Walk happening in parts of Australia at the moment I am re-posting this piece, which orginally appeared here on blue milk. TRIGGER WARNING – graphic description of rape. ——————————————– I am going to assume the person who left this comment on my post Don’t get raped is [...]
By blue milk on May 28, 2011
Image credit here. In honour of the Slut Walk happening in parts of Australia at the moment I am re-posting this piece, which orginally appeared here on blue milk. From Amelia Bentley’s article in the brisbane times (my use of bold in the excerpt below): A 17-year-old girl’s drunken night out at Brisbane club Friday’s [...]