And we’ve posted about Nice Guy(tm) sexual entitlement, and the femiblogosphere has discussed and been subjected to comments from men who think they oughtta get a special cookie because they could have raped someone once, but chose not to.
– a woman being drunk
– a woman wearing “revealing” clothing
– the woman and the rapist having had sex in the past
– the rapist being a “nice guy”
– the rapist being “sexually frustrated”
Other recent research by ACSSA has found, for example, that 44% of men agree that “Rape results from men not being able to control their need for sex”.
I really wish this was news, but sadly, it isn’t, not by a long chalk. Outrage fatigue? I don’t know. I still feel a burning anger. But it’s more of an “I’ve been smouldering for years” underground-coal-fire anger than a blazing-petrol-tanker anger. What do we do next? How do we fight this global woman-hate?
Edited to add: News.com.au now has this piece up complete with a repugnant photograph of a headless woman in a leather miniskirt, clutching a lamp-post. The comments section has a few feminist comments, heaps of “Oh, it doesn’t excuse rape exactly, but these women are clearly being irresponsible”, but an enormous number of vile misogynist remarks. A sampling (my comments in italics)
“ned from sydney” doesn’t think women are humans, and that women who are raped wanted it really: “Why would i or other men ask a women to come to my house after a few drinks at the club/bar/pub? to talk politics, to play the playstation, to do what? […] ladys dont play dumb and dont be ignorant, every adult or teenager in their late teens would no sex is on the guys mind and he expecting sex, and the fact you are there shows the guy are you thinkin the same.”
Michael T of Brisbane needs to get himself a blow-up doll: “Some of the messages about sexual assault that are targetted at young men quite frankly make me laugh at times. There was one youth targetted sight which I looked at once, and it basically implied that if a girl a) doesn’t say no, b) doesn’t put up any physical resistence, c) allows you to undress her, d) allows you to sit there and put on a condom, e) allows you space between her legs to do the deed, you can still be charged with rape because she never actually said: “Yes.””
Bitten can’t decide whether it’s not about gender at all, or whether women need to protect themselves: “Women should be able to control themselves and not get so drunk they make choices they regret when sober. But the fact it, people behave badly. Men and women. Protect yourselves people, don’t be naive.”
RK of Melbourne openly blames women: “If a girl has just met a guy on a night out and she decided to go back to his place after a few drinks – it doesnt mean that she wants to have sex with him. True. But come on, who would ever put themselves in that situation? […] If this happened to a girl obviously the guy will get the blame for it, but SHE initiates the trouble.”
Paul H of Adelaide has an uninspired rant. For some reason I’m having trouble believing his heart is really in it: “This is where trendy feminist politics comes into it. Women enjoy incredible freedoms in this society but none of the responsibilities.”
I think gumbi of an office came up with my favourite *headdesk*, just for the unalloyed blitheness of internal contradiction: “I agrre to the fact that unless the stats are in front of me, i would find this hard to believe. But i do agree that some women bring it upon them selves, i am in perth and i see girls (even in the middle of WINTER) wearing just a very very small dress and high heels. or very very small skirts/shorts with low cut tops. Women thrive on attention and they try really hard even though they dont show it.” And I adore his tagline: “If your sexually frustrated get a porno and have fun with yourself or mates.”
Garrett of Perth? You rock, just for this metaphor: “Gumbi….. A person can not possibly bring rape upon themselves. It’s not like swimming in a pool of shit hoping to get dysentery. It takes an intended act by another party to commit rape.”