Admin note: So HaT is back up again, slightly to my surprise, I must admit. I’d asked my host’s support people to revert to an earlier version of the blog from their master backups, but they didn’t let me know that it had already been done. I’ll be importing posts from April back into the blog over the next day or so, from where they’re currently sitting over at the backup Hoyden In Exile blog. The hack coincided with a time where I just had too much else going on to deal with fixing HaT.
March was A Month, and then April was a Month And A Half. In March my mother was diagnosed with untreatable metastases arising from the breast cancer we all hoped she had beaten last year, and the disease progressed swiftly. Within weeks she was hospitalised due to weakness and delirium and we kept hoping they’d stabilise her so she could come back home for a while, but that wasn’t possible. She still had some cogent and lucid hours, but there were days and days where the delirium was uppermost, although thankfully the medical team were able to manage her pain so that she wasn’t in physical distress.
In the second week of April she was transferred to a hospice for palliative care, where she was more comfortable and mostly more aware and interactive, which was a very precious time for us. A little over a week later she died peacefully with family around her, and this week we held a funeral service to celebrate her life, with a full house of friends and family, in one of her favourite parts of the world on a gorgeous sunny afternoon.Mum was the first hoyden I ever knew, and my heart is too full to write everything I want to say about her in this space. I described her to someone recently as my emotional lodestar, and I will strive to live up to her example of a core of warmth, generosity, kindness and wisdom wrapped in irrepressible adventurous impishness every day of my life.