For once here’s some relationship advice which talks about the way the men and women are TRAINED from an early age to act differently in response to life’s annoyances and pains. That’s a refreshing change from all those articles which try and paint gender-differences in emotional responses as being due to innate genetic XX vs XY differences.
I also like how this comedian I’ve never heard of (Steve Harvey) talks about MUTUAL compromises needing to be made with regard to acknowledging and respecting differences in the way people cope emotionally. It’s just a shame that he makes this out to be purely a man-woman thing.
In fact, Harvey’s advice engages in a helluva lot of stereotyping, as if these cultural gender traits are universally aligned in a gender apartheid, with no crossover or outliers, and that these traits cannot ever be modified by adult self-examination and consciousness-raising.
And there’s not one single mention of how it might just be possible that a couple frustrated by different styles of emotional response could just fucking maybe avoid perpetuating this emotional apartheid based on genitals in the way they raise their own children.
Categories: gender & feminism