Carey Roberts, a withered geriatrarch of the he-man-she-haters club, is once again complaining that women are meanyheads: in Misandry in the least likely of places Roberts clutches his pearls over the lyrics of a Country song about a revenge scenario on an untrusted lover.
But it’s the title “” Before He Cheats “” that turns this song into a bitter gender tirade. Just imagine a male star reaching platinum for crooning, Before She Aborts.
Country songs about Cheatin’, oh my, Carey Roberts! Such razor-sharp insight! Who’s ever heard of such a thing! Why, it’s not as if it’s such a trope in country music that there’s actually songs about cheating songs or anything.
Cause she just started liking cheatin’ songs
And what’s bothering me
I don’t know if its the cheatin’ she likes
Or just the melody
As various commentors over at Sadly, No!‘s excellent fisking of Roberts have observed, it’s hard to see how just the title makes this particular country song an outstandingly bitter gender tirade in comparison to such shining lights of relationship modelling as “Momma’s in the Graveyard (Poppa’s in the Pen)” or “He hit me (and it felt like a kiss)”.
You’d think drawing such a long bow would have tuckered Carey out, but no – he’s only warming up for the Hyperbole Steeplechase:
It’s one thing to peruse a scholarly analysis of gender contempt. It’s quite another to experience it up close and personal, like a bare-knuckled fist shoved into the gut.
That happened last week. I came across an article that announced, “The Spirituality of Moms Outpaces that of Dads.” Based on research by a California-based new-age outfit called The Barna Group, the article purports to show that compared to women, men are spiritual dwarfs.
That’s right, a couple hundred years ago we were debating whether American Indians had souls. Now, it seems the spirituality of men is being called into question.
Over the last decade, we’ve watched as our churches have fallen captive to female bonding rituals, Aphrodite worship, and revisionist versions of the Ten Commandments that begin, “Adore me, the Mother. Know that I, the Mother, am immanent and transcendent.”
I’ve seen this with my own eyes, and worse.
And no surprise, men are leaving the church in droves. And now along comes the Barna Group that pompously informs us that “Men generally lag behind the spirituality of women.” Want proof? Because in a typical week, “mothers are more likely than fathers to attend church.”
Girls, how’s that for a plan “” we’ll feminize the church, send the men packing, and then proclaim our moral superiority!
Another commentor at Sadly,No! offers a different hypothesis:
As far as the “men don’t go to church” thing, it is simple: 90% of self-identified Christians think church sucks, but they want their kids to get a religous upbringing. So the wife has to drag the kids to church, while Poppa stays home to watch football and go fishing, because, you know, he’s in charge and can do what he wants. Misandry, my ample bottom.
So, is it more likely that
- 1. A country song called “Before He Cheats” is more likely to be
- (a) playing into a long country music tradition of “cheatin’ songs”
- (b) a bitter gender tirade?
- 2. The preponderance of women in churches is more likely to be
- (a) due to women driving the men away from church,
- (b) to men delegating the boredom of ensuring children are religionised to the womenfolk while they indulge in leisure?
My answers are going to be 1.a and 2.b, but I’m probably just indulging in a bitter gender tirade.
Amanda at Pandagon especially takes on Robert’s equivalence of cheating with abortion, in light of more restrictions on abortion being proposed in Ohio, which is serious and takes all the fun out of mocking obsessed anti-feminists like Roberts. The Ohio legislators aren’t quite so obviously unhinged, more’s the pity?
P.S. I want an Australian equivalent of Roberts to poke at every now and then. Where are they all? It’s not that we don’t have loons, but they don’t have such high-profile platforms. Maybe Aussies are getting some things right even when they have voted in Howard for the last 11 years.