Internet or sex?

This is all over the news. WA Today reports: “Woman [sic] choose web over sex”:

Nearly one out of two women would rather give up sex for two weeks than go without the internet, according to a survey released today.

Is anyone really surprised? Any Hoydenizens care to participate in a straw poll?

Count me in with that “nearly one out of two” (46%, sez Ars Technica) minority. And can I just add, Intel, that choosing two weeks of abstinence is not the same as “preferring the Web to sex”.



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33 replies

  1. I’d take two weeks of abstinence and the net followed by good sex! One doesn’t have to be having sex every second day to be have a satisfactory sex life ; )

  2. Yep, I got no problem with 2 weeks abstinence. But 2 weeks without the net? No thanks! Unless it’s because I’m off on a fabulous camping holiday or some such thing…though even then 2 weeks might be too long 😛

  3. Oh definitely… I have problems with a day without access. Two weeks would be torture! Since my girlfriend lives 800km, we’re both used to multiple weeks’ abstinence anyway! 🙂

  4. It’s a no-brainer. I would take the two weeks abstinence any time.
    Deborah’s last blog post..Outliers, privilege and gender

  5. OMG yer all sex-hatin’ femuhnists!
    Now, if they’d compared it to two weeks without being allowed to speak with or touch my partner? My answer would have been different.
    But the bottom line is – going without net for two weeks means a bunch of tedious organisation and rearrangement. I’d have to arrange people to take over all the groups I moderate, and for a two-week absence there would have to be a fair few other notifications as well, to stop people ringing alarm bells. There are the little things that add up, like having to sort out my banking needs two weeks in advance. And there’s the issue of what to do for those two weeks. It’s not like I can go gallivanting around the countryside, so I’d be stuck with books and TV. While that’s fine for a day or two, longer than that without lots of human interaction and stimulating conversation and I start to go stark raving. I also find that books don’t distract me from pain and other CFS symptoms enough for my liking, not for long periods. So it would be two weeks of isolation, loneliness and escalating physical torture. That compared to two weeks without a fuck? Big deal.

  6. I’ve rather happily gone a few years without sex… I don’t think I would be so comfortable about going without my net. Every time my computer breaks I go to ridiculous lengths to check my email.

  7. Hmm, see, this had me wondering whether it was a question of going without sex for two weeks or the internet FOREVER! Then my brain went kablooey at the very thought of no internet ever again, and I couldn’t even come to decision. Also, this question is probably not helped by my dwelling in singleton. 🙂

  8. I would rather give up sex for two weeks than give up the internet for 2 hours.

  9. Now, if they’d compared it to two weeks without being allowed to speak with or touch my partner? My answer would have been different.
    This. I’d definitely give up sex over the internet for two weeks, but intimacy altogether? No. (Well, unless I was travelling somewhere, in which case the internet becomes the best way to communicate with my partner anyway.)

  10. Quick! Quick! Get rid of the internet, its making some wimmenz realise that there is more to life than being readily available for sex! Oh Noes..

  11. Oh crikey. Look at all these naughty women neglecting their poor long-suffering menfolks.

    This is pretty ridiculous when you consider how essential the net is for many of us to work and study.

    Total bollocks.

  12. @ Lauredhel

    Now, if they’d compared it to two weeks without being allowed to speak with or touch my partner? My answer would have been different.

    Exactly. It’s almost as if they set up this strawman poll simply to generate an OMG headline, isn’t it?

  13. Goodness, we’re heading for 100% here, where are all the women who can’t give up sex?

  14. They’d be the ones who don’t actually use the internet, and therefore aren’t here to comment.
    Just cause I’m a guy, I guess, but I thought the amazing thing was 30% of males too. Though I wonder exactly how many couldn’t differentiate between giving up internet and giving up sex

  15. I’d rather *not* give up sex, but it’s such a dumb comparison. I log into the net, what? Forty times a day!!? For work, for leisure, for communication, for study, for general research, for community, for news, for laughs, for banking. I do it in the office, at cafes, in loungerooms, in front of friends and relatives.
    There is no way on earth I could ‘have sex’ forty times a day, or in those settings.
    The impact not having sex would have on a single day of mine, as opposed to not having internet access is just incomparable. After two weeks of no sex, sex would be a rather joyous coming together…after two weeks of no internet, my email accounts would have shat themselves, I would have pissed off dozens of people for failing to reply, I would potentially be unable to do my job, keep an eye on finances, keep up with study, blog, read blogs, help my child learn and do homework…it’s just a crazy crazy comparison.
    fuckpoliteness’s last blog post..Sam Brett sickens me

  16. Good point FP. I think I’ve seen a comparison in the past which was sex and chocolate.

  17. What’s sex? Spooning is much better 🙂

  18. I think I’ve seen a comparison in the past which was sex and chocolate.
    And um… I think I would take the chocolate! Most of the month, that is.
    Deborah’s last blog post..Outliers, privilege and gender

  19. Exactly. It’s almost as if they set up this strawman poll simply to generate an OMG headline, isn’t it?

    A computer company? Never!

  20. I agree with fp, it’s a dumb comparison. But really? Internet wins, every time.
    Unless masturbation is counted as part of ‘sex’ here–is that TMI?

  21. Hehe…no I thought about that too Bene! 🙂 No fair to ask and not spell it out! And for real, if it *is* allowed, no WONDER so many women are choosing ‘Yes please’ to internet and…um…self help.
    Hmmm…if you’re saying to me that my partner is standing in front of me and Choice A is sex, and Choice B is internet, then I can’t say it’s always or usually internet, as I can get stuck on the computer way past the time it was fun/healthy/enjoyable. So often in that scenario I’d pick A. I spend far more time thinking about A than about B (but that’s possibly cos I spend so many damned hours every single day doing B).
    But…they’re kinda setting up the choice differently which impacts the answer for me. And also raises the question (a vital question) two weeks of ‘abstinence’ means no masturbation. Cos that could radically change some answers, at least from where I stand.

  22. Given my sex drive died a horrible death about seven years ago when I started taking antidepressants (and I’ve subsequently pretty much gone without sex ever since and not missed it) I’m another one who’s opting for the abstinence.
    Giving up all the hugs and cuddles my partner gives me would cause me to pause for a bit – but then again, if all else fails, we can both get on IM and message each other hugs and be sickeningly lovey-dovey that way. Or we can phone each other. Sex isn’t the only way of being intimate with someone, after all.
    But my internet connection they’re getting over their dead bodies (and yes, the phrasing is deliberate).
    Meg Thornton’s last blog post..Because Geekery can be fun when you do it for a living

  23. Well, not only am I prepared to be the bum note in the perfect harmony you’ve got going here, I am actually in the surprising position to speak from experience. Just spent October in a tiny town in France where there was no internet access, but time for those OTHER leisure activities that had almost evaporated in the preceding months, and since then having spent this last month back in the real world where there is never the time and engery available for a decent shag, I’m thinking (deep breath) GET ME BACK TO RURAL OBSCURITY.

  24. Orlando– perhaps the answers might have been very different if the question had been framed as “Would you rather go without sex or internet while on holiday?” I can see my answer being quite different then! 🙂

  25. With these ‘surveys’, I love the way that everything is compared to sex, as though sex is the yardstick by which we measure all good things.

  26. @ Beppie: YES!!!
    Holidays? Me wants beach and sex, and sex and beach and sleep and food and sleep. Internets be buggered.

  27. There is no way on earth I could ‘have sex’ forty times a day, or in those settings.
    Well, it’d certainly be interesting and probably get you on the nightly news…

  28. Indeed! 🙂 Wow I’d be tired at the end though!

  29. Like those people that were on the news for pledging to have sex everyday for a year. I wondered if the fun might wear off after a while. Not to mention tenderness, in both senses.

  30. Hell yes, take my sex and leave me my sweet sweet Internets.
    Of course, my actual response to the question would have been, “Does it still count if I’m on the rag for one of the no-sex weeks?”

  31. Which brings up an interesting point…when does masturbation ‘count’ as sex in different POVs? Does the big patriarchal monolith count women’s masturbation as actual sex?

  32. I use the web to talk to people, to stay involved in my community, to read the news, to distract myself, to work, to do chores, to shop…  Maybe these poll-takers decided that “using the internet” solely means “playing games, you slackers”.
    This is before one gets into the utter stupidity of a news article being written around a poll about the internet, that was posted on the internet.

  33. This is before one gets into the utter stupidity of a news article being written around a poll about the internet, that was posted on the internet.

    ^^ seconded. self selecting polls of this nature are close to worthless.
    I’m not sure which I’d choose right now if I had the choice.

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